(Closed) Wasn’t asked to be a bridesmaid — very hurt

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 77
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@mrsSonthebeach:  

@MissTurtle27:  

@HollyCJ:  

Yup, all of these. I had someone comment about not being asked, and it just reminded me why. Because i didnt want them! Sheesh.

I really just don’t get how this whole post talks about how you did everything right and were such a good friend, besides being too thin of course, and she just snubbed you cold. If you were really such a good friend who cared about her, then you wouldn’t justify how perfect you are and what a snub it was? You would just be supportive, and not text your OF how offended you were and why did she get chosen and not you? I sure wouldn’t want a bridesmaid who asked people around me and made them uncomfortable rather than just talk to me directly??

I think the “don’t upset the bride” thing goes too far, but if my friend was questioning my decisions and our friendship to our mutual friends around me, I’d be pissed as a FRIEND not a bride. 

Post # 79
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1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@JNE:  did you ever find out why you weren’t asked to be in the bridal party?

Post # 79
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1 posts
Wannabee

I’m currently in this situation, I wasn’t asked to be my best friend’s bridesmaid nor did she even tell me that she got engaged, I found out through social media. While this is terrible that it happened to you, I’m somewhat relieved that I’m not the only one 🙁 I already hung out with her and she didn’t once mention the bridesmaids situation and I had to bring up most questionsl regarding the wedding. It seemed like she was hiding information. She at least had the courtesy of inviting me to her wedding via text message… I don’t know if I should ask her how many bridesmaids she’s having. I only found out about the bridesmaid thing because her sister is my coworker and another coworker asked her how she was doing her hair for the wedding and the sister said “well she wants the bridesmaids…” and at that moment my heart sank 😢

Post # 80
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Helper bee

To the OP: 

IMHO 

You seem like a  thoughtful person who’s willing to go above and beyond for your friends. But don’t you think you’re being dramatic? It doesn’t seem like THAT big of a deal to be so broken up about being in this girls bridal party or not. You clearly care about her enough to want to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man but now you question if you should even attend as a guest? That’s silly! You’re too in your feelings with this–Be happy that your on the guest list, go to the wedding and let it be. Maybe the BTB just needs some breathing room– If she wanted you to be in the planning process she would have involved you from the beginning; you’re not a conjoined twin with OF. With that being said:  Just because your not a Bridesmaid or Best Man doesn’t mean BTB doesn’t value you as a friend and just because you are her friend it doesn’t entitle you to be with her through this 24/7. 

Post # 82
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Helper bee

I didn’t realize this thread is 5 years old when I posted 😳🙄

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