Wasn’t Given a Plus One (in wedding party)

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
2610 posts
Sugar bee

This is SO rude (but most likely not intended to be personal)

It’s true that it’s not compulsory to give plus ones to all guests that aren’t married or engaged, but there’s almost always an exception for the wedding party. If your husband is important enough to stand with him on his wedding day then his friend should care enough about him to support his FIVE YEAR relationship. 

Based on your posts it sounds like it’s a combo of a stressed out/controling bride and an appeasing or clueless groom. It wouldn’t make me end the friendship necessarily, but I wouldn’t expect to be too close to them after that. 

Post # 33
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

Extremely cheap and rude. A good host should be far more thoughtful and host an enjoyable party they can actually afford, even if they have to scale back to prioritize people over place. 

Post # 34
24 posts


If your boyfriend was just a guest, I would say that they have to draw the line somewhere, i.e. couples who live together.

However, etiquette and common decency says that members of the bridal party get a +1. This is standard practice, and to do otherwise is a huge no-no.   

Your boyfriend is spending lots of money and time on this friend for his wedding, as a groomsman. I think this is really cheap of the couple to not invite you. 

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