(Closed) Watching Say Yes and wondering about bridesmaid costs

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I only had two and they are both single struggling moms.  I wanted black bm dresses and their bodies are SO different, so I decided to let them pick out what best suited them and I paid for them myself.  It ended up only costing me less than $100 because them both loved something that was on clearance – BONUS.  We also paid for the guys suits and they got to keep them, so no Bridesmaid or Best Man or Groomsmen gifts – Double BONUS.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i’m watching the same episode, and i felt so bad for the girl. the girls dresses were on sale when they bought them from the boutique and i bought the shoes. the dresses were 119 dollars. i bought them jewelry, and they are paying for their own hair and make-up. we also paid for their rooms during the wedding weekend, so i’m estimating that they are paying around $300 for everything (i’m including the gas money *estimate* to get from florida to tennesee, as they are car pooling.)

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Jeannine @ Small Chic:  I’m watching that same episode!  I was feeling so bad for that girl.  My Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are $114-$126.  We’re using Alfred Sung and ordering them from Netbride very soon.  Their shoes were $52, so they’re all spending less than $200 on attire.  They are all having to travel to our wedding, so I tried to keep the attire cost down as much as possible.  I think they’re happy with it!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Jeannine @ Small Chic:  I picked the shoes because they’re yellow, and I wasn’t sure how it would look if they didn’t match.  The color of the dresses match, but they each have a different style dress.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Jeannine @ Small Chic:  By The Way, I love the shoe poms you made, wish I would have seen them before I got married.  Those were absolutely adorable.  I think they bring absolute unity to the different shoes.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Mine were $154 and they all had the same dress. They could wear whatever shoes they wanted (another reason for long dresses). Hair and make up were up to them–I didn’t require it. In my Bridesmaid or Best Man days, I refused to pay more than $200. After that, they could pick whatever they wanted. I always threatened to make them wear those dresses in my wedding. They were afraid when I got engaged. Very afraid.

I felt bad for that girl too, but if it’s that much of a problem why did she agree to be in the wedding?

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m trying to be as little a financial burden on my BMs as possible. I got them to buy a J Crew dress while it was on sale (and with a 30% off coupon) that cost $98. The only other thing I am planning on having them buy are $28 boots. A bunch of them also want to split on hair styling and lodging (for the night of our wedding, we’re paying for their stay the night before). I plan on buying them a necklace and a shawl as gifts that they can wear the day of aswell.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Jeannine @ Small Chic:  I started sending them pictures of what I liked.  I asked them what they thought about wearing yellow heels.  One girl said she didn’t want super tall heels because she’s already tall and felt like she would tower over me. 

I ended up just ordering a bunch of heels and they tried them on.  I told them what I really liked, and they all agreed.  The heels are 2.5in so it’s really not that high.  They all said they are really comfy, so I think that helped too.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I love how all these ladies are watching the same show at the same time!  The bride mentioned that she understood the friend’s situation to the other Bridesmaid or Best Man.   Maybe it would have been tactful for her to have discussed the finances with the Bridesmaid or Best Man before the trip to the store–would have been less uncomfortable for everyone there.  

Then the staff proceeded to point out how they don’t like the brides who want to have everyone in different style dresses….they’re gonna love me when it comes time for that!   🙂

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

OMG – just looked back up….what’s up with the flowery chiffon thing for Brooke’s wedding???!!!!  They look like frosted cupcakes!  

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have yet to watch that version of Say Yes.  I’ll have to check it out.

I can’t imagine having my BMs pay a ton for a dress that they’ll never wear again.  It’s pointless in my eyes.  

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