(Closed) Watching Say Yes and wondering about bridesmaid costs

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My FI’s groomsman is actually a chick, so he went with her to dress shopping. When she found a dress at  $190 and her face fell because she couldn’t afford it, he called me to ask if he could pay half. In doing so we also paid half for the moh dress too($120) to be fair. The best part is that they ARE dresses they can re-wear being a more casual look to the wedding. I’m also paying for the moh’s hair to be done and the grooms-maid’s makeup.

Post # 33
2701 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

my girls spent $180 with the exception of my tall bridesmaid who had to buy an extra length one for $200. I am having long dresses. I know it’s expensive, but what are you going to do?!?!

Post # 34
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve always paid between $150-400 on bridesmaid dresses – which I think is a lot. However, I’ve never had to buy shoes or accessories. I was either told to wear what I want in a certain color or was given these as gifts. For my bridesmaids (2), I told them to find a long blue (colbalt) dress in whatever fabric or style they like. Hopefully it works out! I’m a bit nervous about them matching, but this is easier than trying to please both of them!


Oh – and I have never reworn a bridesmaid dress! There is one (an Amsale dress) that I could cut off and wear but I haven’t gotten around to it!

Post # 36
3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My girls just ordered their dresses on Thursday! And I love them! =)

*Of course these are only samples and not their sizes. 

The dress will be Charcoal Satin and they got it for $99 + $20 OFF! =) AWESOME! 

My goal looking for Bmaid Dresses was no more than $150! I really loved shopping/looking at Nordstroms, but ultimately liked this simplistic style by Alfred Angelo. 

Post # 37
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

my girls are spending between 175-225 on their dresses.  this seems pretty standard in the weddings in my area. 

they can spend any strappy gold shoes they want (hopefully they already have some).

hair and makeup is definitely optional, but i’ll be having someone come to the hotel to do it if anyone wants to get it done.

in order to help out with costs, my bridesmaid gifts are a night at the hotel before the wedding.  i’m getting a couple rooms for us all to stay in to cut down on their expenses. i’m also surprising them with a masseuse coming to the hotel after the rehearsal dinner.  i hope they will like this and not see it coming!

Post # 38
7367 posts
Busy Beekeeper

My preferance for my BM’s is spending a MAXIMUM of not more than $150 for the dress. I’m leaning towards those converatable dresses on Esty, that average about $100. I simply can’t justify causing an additional financial stress for the “honor” of being in my wedding. Ideally, if my financial situation improves I’d like to buy their dresses or perhaps cover the differance of anything over $100. I haven’t been in wedding in so long and I know for me anything over $150 will have me looking at you like your crazy. Times are hard and spending that much money on a one time dress isn’t cute. I’m not a Kardasian LOL.

Post # 39
5920 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My dresses were $125, plus tax.  I gifted them jewelry and pashmina wraps, and they could wear whatever shoes they wanted.  I tried to make them as inexpensive as possible, which was hard for a December winter wedding, since we opted for long dresses.

Post # 40
9050 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We discussed the prices ahead of time and agreed that if I fell in a love with a dress that would be more than $150, I would pay the difference.  We ended up with Alfred Sung dresses that cost $125 each, so lucky me!

Post # 41
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My dresses were $200 each, but I knew all of my girls could afford that before I picked them out (2 have good jobs, and 1 is in grad school but has wealthy parents who help her out).  If I knew it would be a burden on them, I would have limited myself to cheaper dresses.  

I did save them money by letting them wear whatever shoes and jewelry they wanted (the dresses were floor-length), and I gifted them pashminas and flip flops. My mom paid for their hair.  So really the dress was their only wedding party expense (if they wore shoes/jewelry that they already had). 

Post # 42
2082 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

As a UK bride, I get to pay for the dresses, shoes, accessories etc. It’s simply not done over here to ask the BM’s to pay for any of it. Expensive business…

Post # 43
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m getting my bridesmaid dresses at David’s Bridal because most of their dresses are under 150.  I’m letting my girls pick their own dress just in the color I chose so they can pick something that looks best on them.

They can pick their own shoes.. I might set a color, but haven’t decided yet.  I’m also going to give them the option of if they want to get their hair/nails/makeup done.  If they want to do it themselves, that’s fine by me.

I feel like that way, the only money I’m asking them to spend is on their dress…. otherwise, it’s all up to them.

Post # 44
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Jeannine @ Small Chic: They are selecting from a collection that ranges from 79.99 to 199.99. I am thankful to have bridesmaids who wont endure too much of a financial burden and are going to look beautiful.

Post # 45
1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I offered to by my girls’ dresses when I asked them to be in the wedding.  I know that weddings are not their “thing”, and I couldn’t see asking them to spend that kind of money on it (in addition to getting themselves to the destination) just because it was my thing.  

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