(Closed) Way ahead of the game?

posted 5 years ago in August 2013
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@sherryberry:  No not at all! You are in perfect timing! I have no idea why she made those rude comments. But maybe she didn’t mean it in a bad way? Who knows. The avergae engagement is 18 months I read somewhere, and wedding planning is ideally 12 months before but if it’s earlier than even better in my opinion.

My fiance and I paid a deposit for out venue almost 1 year and 9 months in advance for our July 2013 wedding. When we picked out the date and checked with our venue calander, she already had like 5 weddings booked for July 2013, so of course people are starting as early as possible because of the demand for venues and you just never know if they will be too booked when it comes your turn to pick a date. So you are doing great!!

I also already have the save the dates and started my wedding website since those are printed on the save the date. I did this 12-13 months prior and I think it’s the right thing to do. But I won’t be sending the save the dates until around 9 months before (to give all the out of towners enough notice) and the actual invite 3 months before. Not to mention I already have my dress! Picked it up from the bridal shop today. So no, you are not too early and on the right track. Hope this helps 🙂

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Yeah that sounds pretty rude :/  Actually my venue’s event coordinator told us we would get details (including menu) ironed out 6 months before our wedding, but we reserved our date and put down a deposit and everything in April and I’m very glad we did.  So I don’t think it’s unreasonable for the venue to want to give their focus to brides who are having weddings sooner and to get your (our) details closer to the date, however there’s no reason to be unkind or rude about it!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We looked at our venue in December and they acted like we were a little ahead of the game. And I told them I would rather have my choice of date and room than wait to book just to wait. We didn’t book until March, and they didn’t mention it when we booked. The people at your venue might be a little rude, but you should remind them that its good for them because that means they get the deposit for your date earlier than they would have otherwise.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Well, our venue was booked enough at 14 months out that we did not get the first two dates we wanted, so no I don’t think a year is too soon to book a venue. 

However, my second choice venue had a rule that you could not book farther than a year in advance. They host a lot of events other than weddings, so maybe that is why. They also were a little rude about it when I scheduled a meeting and a tour, and told me to come/call back when it was a year from the date or less.

So, I guess it just depends on the venue. Maybe if they get enough business from other events they just don’t feel like being that accomadating for brides.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

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Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

@yellow7404:  Wow.  As rude as the vendor the OP described!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sherryberry:  That is rude…you think being in the wedding business they’d know. The place we are having our venue books at least a year in advance, it might be a year away but that’s only 52 weekends haha. I booked my rehearsal dinner venue today (for Nov 2nd) the lady was seemed shocked that I was booking so early. Better to get everything squared away. People are silly…plan away!!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We booked at the beginning of June, and we basically just had that one weekend to choose from.  All of June, July, most of August, all of September, October… all full!!!  In June! 

I do think the majority of people probably do wait too long. I would have too if I hadn’t talked to you people first.  But the majority of people also pay more than I’m paying and don’t get their first choice of venue like I did.  I think the people who get their first choice generally booked at least a year in advance.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Not too early at all! I started calling venues this April for originally september 2013 and couldnt find one that WASNT booked yet. So when we found ours for August 2013 we made sure to hurry and put a deposit down. Its good to get those big things out of the way so you dont have to stress about it. Also, planning themes/colors, etc for your wedding will be easier now that you know what the hall looks like.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah, we are getting married in a super popular area so I tried to book 14 months in advance and everything was gone. We ended up having to move to August because May, June and July were all fully booked for Saturday nights. They basically told us we have to book all of our major vendors by the end of this summer.

The rudeness thing is really irritating, mostly because I feel like sometimes brides can’t win. I have gotten weird looks for looking so early, and criticism for looking too late. Don’t even get me started on what happens when I tell people I’m not really having a bridal party (just MOH and BM and our nieces and nephews).

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sherryberry:  “way ahead of the game,” “you’re obviously organized”

I’ve gotten these comments, too, but not in a rude way. I’ve only gotten positive comments about how much time and headache I’m saving myself by doing it all now. We got engaged in February, and I’ve gotten my dress/shoes, our reception venue booked, photographer booked, officiants and ceremony venue chosen (can’t book until this August), bridesmaids asked (they also have their shoes and we’re in the process of checking out dresses), tuxes chosen (GMs chosen, but not all of them have been asked), website is nearly done, STDs/invites are designed. 

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