Post # 1
Well hello bees. Our internet at work has been down for days, so I haven’t been able to check in!
I had a minor melt down last night. We sent out 105 invites, this totalled about 200 people. With counts we assumed 150-160 would attend. Yesterday I counted. While we are still tracking down a few invites, our count is at 118!
118!! Are you serious, that’s a LONG cry from 150! A ton of people are not brining their spouse for one reason or another. Several of my family members are not coming & almost NO ONE is bringing their “& guest”…
I’m upset that we aren’t going to have anything close to the number we assumed. Our hall holds over 200 comfortably – so will the room look sparse? What if people leave early? Who will dance?
I don’t know that there is really advice to give, I just needed to vent a bit.
Post # 3
I had the same problems. We thought we would have around 60-75 guests and we only had 30 (after giving a few couples a last minute invite). People still danced and no one left early! If you have an amount that you need to meet like a minimum, you might need to give your guests some more perks (we ended up going with an open bar and adding a few more appetizers to make the minimum at our location). Don’t feel bad, everyone will still have a wonderful time!
Post # 4
Ella: You and I are apparently the same person. See my post “pity party” which is pretty much the same situation. I understand how you feel.
I did get a suggestion from a bee to use smaller tables to have more/spaced out, which I am going to do. Luckily our venue lowered our minimum but before they did that, we thought of adding wine to the tables, doing more apps, etc.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry about your venue looking empty. Places are use to dealing with different sized groups and know how to set it up to make it look right.
Post # 6
hotchildinthecity: Sorry I didn’t see yours first! I didn’t make it past the first page before my need to complain sunk in. I’ll go find yours now!
The only “minimum” we have is for the meals, there is a 150 person minimum for our plan, however breaking it up into an “a la carte” type situation is only 400 dollars cheaper, so it will work out.
The tables are 60″ rounds, and that’s all they have. I’m considering going from 8 at a table to 7 to add a few more tables to fill up the room, but I don’t want to have to go to 6, I think that then the tables start to look to sparse… the napkins, bread plates, favors & menus do a lot to spice up the table cheaply.
Alright, going to search for hotchild’s post now. Thanks for helping me to feel a little better ladies.
Post # 7
@Ella: No worries! Just wanted to let you know that there is lots of advice and commiseration on another post as well :o)
Post # 8
MissAsB: You are probably right, everyone will still have a good time, I just worry abotu things (too much most of the time).
My mother told me that as long as everyone I love is there, that’s all that matters. My dad just had to have an emergency surgery, and is healing well. At this point, him being there is more important than other random people and their “& guest”.
I hope I get past this feeling quickly, it’s just in the pit of my stomach today 🙁
Post # 9
I know it’s stressful at first but it might be a blessing in part. I had a hard enough time keeping up with my guest list, I couldn’t imagine having to check in on double the number of guests!
PS – I’m glad that your dad is doing well and can be there.
Post # 10
You should look at the up side– less cost! You’ll still have a GREAT time with 118 and you’ll be spending less than you thought. You can put that extra money into a last minute splurge, a honeymoon splurge, or save it for a rainy day!
Post # 11
Aww, don’t be upset. Small weddings can be a lot of fun. You will be able to interact more closely with all of your guests and spend more time with them. Without seeing your venue, I can’t tell if it would look sparse, but I doubt it. My venue can hold 250, but we’re only inviting 150…. and I doubt everyone will show.
Post # 12
Thanks guys. Everyone is always so cheery and helpful and looking at the bright side.
ps. MissAsB – it’s almost your anniversary! Happy Early Anniversary!!!
Post # 13
Oh man, I’m sorry! We’ve had a couple disappointments along the way regarding number of guests. I’ve realized that it just means we’ll have that much more time to hang with the people that we’re closest to. I don’t get why people don’t realize this is a big deal to us, and that they should try to be there. Sorry again 🙁