Post # 1
I am half indian and in indian weddings we invite everyone. Litterally i have been to weddings for people I don’t even know. I have been to my 8th cousins wedding. Its insane! My fiance and I are not planning a small wedding (about 250-300people) but my family is freaking out a little bit about me not inviting all my extended indian relatives. My naniji (maternal grandmother) is the one who has the real problem she seems to think that people will be very offended or think that we are broke if we don’t invite everyone. I understand its a cultural thing but this is my & my fiance’s wedding! I don’t know most of these people she wants to invite and the ones i kinda know see me about once a year if that. Most of them know me as my naniji’s granddaughter, they don’t even know my name!! Am i being unreasonable? And how do i explain to my naniji that its really okay not to invite everyone & their mother.
Post # 3
This is tricky. I feel like its very common knowledge that Indian weddings are quite the event…I have many Indian friends and they would consider your wedding small!! Who is paying? I mean, if it were me, and my parents were paying, I’d go along with what they want, it would seem to be easier for me to do that than upset my grandparents. Its your wedding day, but this is a day that parents and grandparents look forward to just as much.
Post # 4
My parents basically agree with me. My parents had the wedding my naniji wanted them to and now 28 years later they seem to regret not having the wedding they wanted, especially my dad who isn’t indian. My parents are helping pay but my fiance & I are paying for a majority of it.
Post # 5
Well if your parents are agreeing then Id use them as a defense. 300 people is a lot of people I think you need a limit like second or third cousins and just stick to it.
Post # 6
I perfectly understand your dilemma. Either you have to do what is traditional or make a stand. A “small wedding of 280” would sound funny to anyone else.
Do what you want, it IS your wedding. You will never regret this, it will also set the tone for your position in the community.
See yourselves a trailblazers, pioneers, making it ok for others to have the weddings they want in future years. And if you and your Fiance are in agreement, nothing else matters