Ways to honor recently deceased FFIL?

posted 7 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
456 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’m sorry about your loss.

My father died 5 years before my wedding, so not as raw, but of course I still thought about it. We decided to honour him in several ways, which made us feel like we’d done things he’d have liked.

Firstly, we still have his car. He LOVED his car. So we used that as the wedding car.

Secondly, he was in the military, and so we used his military dagger to cut the cake (my Mom and he had done the same thing at their own wedding).

Thirdly, my entry music was from a show that we went to see together and it was the last time I saw him before he died. My Mom walked me down the aisle but this way it kind of felt like he was included too.

Fourthly, we had an ‘in memoriam’ section giving his name in the back of the Order of Service, just below a list thanking everyone who was helping out with the wedding.

My Mom mentioned him in her speech, which she did instead of him, but it was quite brief as I didn’t want it dwelled on.

Only the dagger was really announced to everyone. The others were more private moments or low key.

We didn’t have an empty chair as that didn’t feel right for us. We intended to have a photo, but ran out of time to organise it and decided we’d included him in other ways.

Hope this gives you some ideas.

Post # 3
734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

I’m so sorry for you and your fiance’s loss. My sincerest condolences. It’s so hard to have a special loved one not be there on your special day.

Since you mentioned ties, perhaps you could get some fabric with his photo’s or a favorite quote or somethign along those lines printed on it and sewn into the back of the tie? I also really liek the idea of having a candle or lantern burning in their honour whiel everything else goes on.

My fiance’s brother passed away last year in a tragic accident. I’ve been trouble with the same problem, I am do really honour him in a special way. Hope you dont mind if I keep lurking your thread for ideas.

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