(Closed) Ways to Include Family in the Ceremony?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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Meredith80:  If you want to do a unity candle ceremony, the mothers could each light a taper after they are escorted down the aisle and before they are seated.

Or, like this example I found:

However, at DD’s wedding the tapers were not lit at the beginning of the service. Instead, when it came time for the unity candle part of the service, both sets of parents went up to the table where the candles were. The fathers stood beside the mothers as the mothers lit the tapers. Then we two mothers went back to our seats, while the fathers stayed up in front and offered a blessing to the couple — sort of a “fatherly” charge or encouragement to the couple (we got a lot of positive feedback on that aspect of the ceremony).

After the father’s returned to their seats, the soloist sang while DD and DSIL lit the unity candle. 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Meredith80:  are you having any readings for the ceremony? We had 2 readers for our wedding


Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015


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Meredith80:  So my Fiance is Jewish and I’m not – we’ve been trying to find small ways to incorporate our beliefs into the ceremony without making it overly religious, as we’re both very secular.

In the Jewish tradition, there is a prayer called the Seven Benedictions that is read at weddings – basically seven blessings for the couple. Because we’re not really religious, we’re putting our own spin on this.

Instead of reading the prayer, we’re having seven close family members and friends come up with a short blessing or wish for us as a couple. We’re going to have our officiant read them all aloud during the ceremony. We loved the idea, because it gives a nod to FI’s religion, it’s personal and it allows us to involve important people we care about in the ceremony.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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Meredith80:  My Fiance and I have been together for 10 years so it was really important to us to incorporate our parented in the ceremony as well. Our florist actually suggested a rose ceremony, ususally it is the parents giving the rose to the bride and groom but we are going to be honoring our parents and giving them each a rose and having our friend (who is officiating) give a little speech explaining the meaning behind it. And we looked up some ideas on what to say, you should look into that. Good luck! 🙂

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Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI

We didn’t have a bridal party so we had his family hold the rings and my stepmom hold my bouquet during the ring ceremony. I had both my parents walk me down the aisle. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

We got married in the church and had a full mass so we had a lot of options. I had my cousin be the cross bearer, two uncles were the readers, his sister was one of the eucaristic ministers, and both of our parents brought up the gifts together. My parents had the wine and his had the communion.

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