(Closed) Ways to make your SO/FI/DH feel special

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
800 posts
Busy bee

My husband hates doing laundry. He would wear dirty cities all the time if he was able. So I make sure to do all his laundry at least once a week. I also cook for him and make sure to bake his favorite cake (German chocolate) for holidays. When he has to travel for work, I send him a couple dozen oatmeal raisin cookies to take with him. Doesn’t seem like much but it doesn’t go unnoticed by him. πŸ™‚

Post # 3
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I honestly just tell him in a blunt way that he’s the single most important person in my life, and that he makes me happy. He’s glowing for hours after that. I’m the same way when he says it to me.

Sometimes just hearing that someone values you is enough. πŸ™‚

Post # 4
46 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

I make sure to regularly do things that span the Five Love Languages, not just his favorite, and I choose things that HE will enjoy.

For Quality Time I suggest/accept doing things I do not necessarily like but that I know he will really love doing with me (tossing a frisbee for example). For Words of Affirmation, I will point out something he does that I really appreciate and the reason why it means so much to me, or I would express my admiration at a special quality he demonstrates often, etc. For Gifts, I sometimes bring him a scented soap or candle as he loves these, etc.

Other ideas that I only do occasionally to make him feel special: I do not bake often but out of the blue I would bake something yummy as a surprise, sometimes I go change into a sexy outfit he really likes just before sex, etc.

Basically the best you know your guy, the easiest it is to find special things to do to please him. The key is to focus on doing things HE will enjoy, and not just things that YOU would enjoy : )

Post # 5
6529 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

gingerkitten:  Darling Husband cooks for us during the week bc I get home later than him.

So on the weekends I will wake up early and make him breakfast. I will get a head start on laundry and cleaning the house so he doesnt have to do much. One of the big things Im looking forward to is throwing him a surprise party bc hes never had a surprise party before!! 20 more days til his big day! Cant wait to see his face!

Post # 6
136 posts
Blushing bee

My SO is gone for a while so I’m taking the time to reflect on what makes the relationship so nice and compiling my thoughts, some pictures, random internet things, lyrics, and quotes from our old convos into a book that I’m hand binding. I’m going to give it to him just because.

Hopefully he’ll feel special haha

Post # 7
757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

My SO is big on touch, so I will give him a foot rub after work or scratch his back while he falls asleep. 

Sometimes I will cook him breakfast when he gets up for his night shift job.

Post # 8
136 posts
Blushing bee

On a regular basis, I remember to always thank him for his encouragement and encourage him. I take him to dinner or go to his place and cook. I also try to take a few minutes with him just to cuddle and tell him that I love him because he likes that. 

Post # 9
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Since I do the grocery shopping, I always pick up something that he likes, particularly something that I don’t eat. I guess I should do that anyways, maybe a lot of people do….but he seems really excited when he sees those gross microwaveable taquitos in the freezer. <br /><br /><br />


Post # 10
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I get his toothbrush ready for him when I think of it. It seems silly but it’s a small little thing that let’s him know I’m thinking of him and sometimes when he is super tired it makes brushing his teeth that bit less of an effort. 

I haven’t done this yet but thought it was an awesome idea, especially seeing as it is winter here atm – steal his towel whilst he’s in the shower, run it in the drier for a few minutes and then wrap him in it when he gets out. I thought that it sounded really cute and sweet. 

Post # 12
3076 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Whenever he does something little like get my favorite snack/ stay up with me/ etc I just make sure to let him know how much I appreciate it with lots of kisses and such. His face lights up which I think is cute πŸ™‚ But it always feels nice to feel appreciated.  Or I also write him little notes as well throwing in a kissy face or heart in there since I like doodling. He gets out of work then showers so while he’s in the shower I get his pjs ready and set them on the counter so he won’t have to go through our cold room to get them. 

Post # 13
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

great post! i sometimes find it hard to do smth romantic/sweet for a guy. I mean my FI will not appreciate scented soap that is sure =) but apart from cooking him smth that he loves i have no ideas….


Post # 14
496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

For my man, it’s a cuddle, kiss, tell him how much I appreciate everything he’s done for us, how proud I am of our lives together. Then the best way to woo Mr Rhianfa is to bring home a fillet steak and cook some homemade chips (fries to my American friends!), grillied mushrooms and rare steak. Oh and a good bottle of red. 

If I’m feeling particularly romantic (which I am now, after reading all your fabulous ideas), it’s a back massage and watching boy films or playing computer games!

Daily ideas, include making sure he has some shirts cleaned and ironed for him, make his lunch and dinner, clean house – y’know all the good ol’ fashioned housewife stuff πŸ˜€ traditional bloke I’ve got <3

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 3 months ago by  RhianfaHW.
Post # 15
8444 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

gingerkitten:  I’m not sure how much you work, but maybe give him a “chore free” day?  Or a nice backrub when he gets home/wakes up.  My husband always comes home to a clean house, his laundry put away and dinner ready since I don’t work, and he loves it.  If I really feel like spoiling him I’ll usually cook a multi course meal along with a freshly baked dessert.  We’ve also had movie nights where I’ll make a bunch of finger foods (i.e. potato skins, egg rolls, etc) and we’ll watch his favorite movies.  You could also plan a small, local mini vacation doing something he likes (my husband likes fishing, golf, etc).

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