Ways to steer guests toward cheaper meal option?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 61
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Busy bee

rao4400 :  Ok, it makes more sense now.  I misunderstood initially.   Why not just remove the fish plate?  Chicken is sort of a standard safe play for everyone. If you are having BBQ options from your family and games and an open bar, I don’t think the impression once people get to the wedding will be “cheap.” It might look a little lack-luster on the invitation, but that certainly won’t stop your guests from coming. Then, once they are attending, it sounds like you have come up with some really welcoming and fun foods and activities for them and they will have an overall great time and won’t even remember the two-food option reservation card. Caterers are always going to upsell you and tell you that you need multiple food options. While that would be great, sometimes it just isn’t in the budget and weddings are expensive enough without trying to cater to everyone’s desires.

Post # 64
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Busy bee

rao4400 :  Could you do something like play up the descriptions of the first two (pasta and chicken) and keep the description of the fish option really vague.  For me that would work, psychologically unless I was on a diet.  There must be a way to say “delicious carby pasta in cheese sauce, spicy marinated chunks of chicken breast seasoned in fresh Indian spices, poached white fish with vegetables.”

Post # 65
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

rao4400 :  

Honestly, I think she’s gonna be alone… by her own choice. She’s been through a lot of bullshit to pretend that she gets a happy ending/prince charming storyline.

Post # 67
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Busy bee

rao4400 :  Sansa doesn’t deserve Tyrion yet.   Tyrion deserves to ride a dragon off into sunset toward a brothel full of women in love with him for saving all of Westros.

Post # 68
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

thekhaleesi :  

I made it through the first book and half of the second as well as seasons one and two. It’s a good show, I just never got back into it.

I just like her name, I have no idea what she’s been up to 😂

Post # 70
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

rao4400 :  I see where you’re coming from. However the subtleties that may influence human behavior when people are making decisions about their OWN money will very well not apply when they are making decisions about other people’s money. In this case, yours. 

That being said, if there is any option other than chicken, I will pick that option every time.  Even if it’s vegetarian–and I love meat. Catered chicken is just so bad.

And given the 3 options, I will pick the shrimp for sure.  

Post # 71
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Busy Beekeeper

thekhaleesi :  If someone served me ravioli I wouldn’t be able to eat it and would be a very cranky guest who left early. Why bother even having a reception if you don’t give a damn about your guests enjoying themselves. And, if the guests aren’t enjoying themselves it’s probably not a very happy wedding for the bride and groom either. 

Post # 72
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Sugar bee

I wouldn’t eat anything, so you’d save money on me.

Post # 73
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Buzzing Beekeeper

rao4400 :  I don’t understand the point of going to such trouble to choose a good caterer and then opting for their least appealing dishes so you can save money. Why not choose a caterer where you can comfortably afford their best dishes? 

Post # 74
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Bumble Beekeeper

If you’re going to offer a choice of meals, you should let your guests decide for themselves. It’s a little mean to hope they all go for the cheap one for your own benefit. 

Have you talked to the caterer about equalizing the cost? Could they maybe adjust the portion size so that the meat entrees were closer in cost to the pasta? I also like the idea of buffet as possibly more economical and giving your guests more options too. 

Post # 75
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

thekhaleesi :  Your perspective is quite unusual.  I don’t think its catering to a few by offering more than one meal option.  I actually think a buffet would be easier and less money that way a variety of dietary concerns/tastes/preferences/avoidance could be catered to.

As a gracious hosts its important to take your guests into consideration.  You act like any guest should be so damn honored to be there when infact the bride and groom should be honored that their friends and loved ones took the time to witness their ceremony and to celebrate with them.  If I had planned a reception I would have put a lot of thought and care into making sure my guests were taken care of.  I have a feeling we will have to agree to disagree on this one.

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