- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2009
Gross. Just gross. All of it.
Gross. Just gross. All of it.
Totally in the wrong. Drunkness is never an excuse and you should have all left the situation. Doing anything drunk you haven’t talked about is stupid. If me or my fiance’ ever did that, even if we were both there, I don’t think we would ever forgive each other, it’s just wrong.
Sounds like your man is mad simply because he couldn’t rise to the occasion and is now pouting because he couldn’t participate in a certain way. If he was hard, are you seriously telling me he wouldn’t have been right there with the other guy? I don’t buy it. If he wanted you to stop, he should have said something instead of just watching.
Personally, I would not be pleased if my SO thought it would be cool to slut shame me to hide his insecurity over his own inability to perform.
I think it’s amazing that so many girls are are willing to blame it on the man not being able to perform. Yes, this is a tricky, multi-faceted situation. But as a couple, if my partner were suddenly not involved at all in a situation he used to be really enthusiastic about, I would see NO excuse for not checking in with him. Just because he’s not stating out loud “Okay, not cool, stop!!” doesn’t mean I would have the go ahead to completely ignore reason and stop thinking about what he may be feeling.
OP, why didn’t you check in with him? In such a sensitive situation. And unless you were unconscious, no amount of drugs or alcohol can explain away that behaviour. It sounds like you got what you wanted so it didn’t matter if he was satisfied, let alone comfortable.
And this is why you shouldn’t experiment under the influence of drugs or alcohol without clear rules and parameters agreed upon by all parties. Give him a day or two to cool off and then address the situation. Unfortunately, what is done is done and now you have to deal with the fallout because there were no agreed upon rules or boundaries. And yes, he’s probably mostly upset because he was unable to perform and therefore unable to enjoy the situation himself.
There is no going back. This will ruin your relationship. He will never get over this. He will get mad for no reason and this is what he will be thinking about. You should brake up now even though it is hard Because he will never see you the same again. FYI when guys dream about threesome its him with two girls.
Ok I don’t think anyone is right or wrong here, it is just one big drunken mistake that probably shouldn’t have happened, but it did and now you gotta move past it. You two need to have a long sit down and you really need to figure out what he is feeling and what he is really angry about. I’m sorry all this is happening but I’m sure if you two really love each other and are willing to put in the work you can get past this.
I was in the military and have seen this happen a 100 times. so yes I know exactly how this will end. even if he does stay with her he will resent her forever and be rude to her. They will fight constantly
I am basing my comments on real situations that happened not just what I think or what she wants to hear. Also, I am not on here to get in a fight with people. We don’t even know these people.
Why does my opinion not matter? You are the one calling names and getting ugly. Last time I checked 100 is greater then 2 (using your numbers) so they are not equal. I did not realize you had a crystal ball that shows you everything will be ok? Sometimes what people need to hear most is the hardest to say. She can read my comments and move on if she chooses. I will not stoop to your level though and start calling you names or being rudely sarcastic like you have with me. You should take your negativity and attacking tones elsewhere. I’m just giving her food for thought, you are choosing to attack me.
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