Post # 1
…and it made me realize I am NOT ready. We aren’t planning to TTC until the fall, but last night I was feeling very in love and told Darling Husband that I wanted him to not pull out, while we were already in the middle of BD. he kinda said no and we carried on. Then as I could tell he was about to finish, I got super scared at the thought of him coming inside me that I physically pushed him off of me.
And then I cried. It was so overwhelming. He told me that he of course wasn’t planning to let it go inside me, we have time for that and don’t be upset. But I think the reason I was so emotional was because baby fever has hit hard since getting married, and yet I reacted so quickly to pushing him away from me when I thought there was a chance it could result in getting pregnant.
Now that it has sunk in, I think I am a little relieved because it has ease. My baby fever andhelped me realize that when I am truly ready, I’ll know.
has anyone else had a similar experience?
Post # 3
@Pink Asawa: Not an experience, but wanted to say that just b/c he didn’t finish inside you doesn’t mean you can’t get PG. There is still a chance of pregnancy with the fact there is no birth control.
Post # 4
@Lyndzo: well yea, you are right, there is still a chance. But somehow I’m ok with taking that small risk. I realized I’m not ready to take control and increase the odds just, but if it were to happen via pull out method, I would be ok with that.
wow, my reasoning sounds so crazy as I type this out!
Post # 5
That sounds like a terrible experience!
I was trying to get Darling Husband to TTC early. I definitely was very ready for a baby!
Post # 6
I don’t think it ever gets less scary. We’ve been trying for a year and a half and I still get nervous when we are about to. Not because I don’t want a baby, but its a huge life changing decision and those tend to be nerve racking moments!
Post # 7
Lol, I had to read this topic cause of the Hockey reference (good Canadian that I am, eh)
Obviously there is more than one meaning to Pull The Goalie (besides the Hockey one)
That I knew…
BUT there still seems to be some different ones in regards to sex.
Here in Canada, where I live, Pulling the Goalie means the guy masturbated… vs not using BC.
When one doesn`t use protection that is known here as going “bareback” where there is no condom, and often no other protection involved otherwise.
Of course, folks who use other means of protection regularly sometimes have their own terminology.
I know when I was using a Diaphragm in the 80s & 90s, girls would often say they were up for a night of dancing… but left their dancing shoes at home, so they`d have to do so barefoot
(Again the whole idea of no protection… going bare. And the equation to “barefoot & pregnant”)
Post # 8
@lovelyMsValentine: I think that might be it, making the actual decision to ttc is what is so scary, vs if it were to just happen. In fact last month I was late, and took a HPT and was slightly disappointed when it was negative.
ugh my emotions are all over the place! Lol.
good luck with getting your BFP soon!
Post # 9
@This Time Round: lol sorry no hockey in this thread, although as a fellow canuck I couldn’t resist the lingo haha. Within my area though the expression is mainly known as removing any BC/barriers (Besides the actual hockey meaning)
Post # 10
Nah I’m with you! I actually told Darling Husband when he was ready to just go for it bc I’m not sure ill ever consent to it! He did for first time a week ago and I’m dying to know if I’m pg and actually going to be disappointed if I’m not!
Post # 11
@Pink Asawa: Thank you! I hope to get it soon too. For us, since we are a same-sex couple, a lot of planning has to go into it before we even get started. So it’s not something we’ve decided on a spur of the moment, BUT there still has been times where I was lying there about to do it and thinking, “omg, this one moment could change the rest of my life. Am I ready for this again?” lol, of course the answer is yes, but still I freak out just a little.
Post # 12
@Pink Asawa: Same here in our area that expression is known for removing BC/barriers too.. I’ve heard our friends say it numerous times too 😉
I think its normal to freak out a little, but when you know your ready you will know 🙂 No need to rush or force yourself, if you want some time to think then Darling Husband can wear condoms until you decide what you want. Hope it works out 🙂
Post # 13
My experience was really different. I had my IUD removed because of a bad reaction, so we were kind of trying to use condoms around my fertile times, but we would both get carried away so really it was more like NTNP.
I would start sex with the best of intentions, “I need to make sure he stops and puts a condom on when he’s ready for penetration,” but then it would just get *so hot* I’d be like… “Whatever. Fuck me bareback you sexy fertile stud!”
We were pregnant within 2 months of the IUD removal. ;P
Post # 14
Well, I think it was scary for me too. WE used thej “pull and pray” method for 8 months…I’m well versed on the actual effectiveness of “coitus interuptus”….and will take the stats on a peer reviewed medical article over whatever cosmo says, and just want to back you up in that it is a legitimate form of contraception for married couples. It’s not 99.99999 on the effectiveness end but it can be in the 90’s with proper use….sort of like with condoms.
We stopped using the pulll and pray method 3 months ago…not pg yet…we aren’t super anxious to get pg, and aren’t charting..just letting it happen when it happens. But I remember being scared too…and I think we both had to really talk before we even got into it and agree on it the first time and after that it was a piece of cake…it’s just that descision you have to conciously make togheter…it’s not a descision I would make while love-making…it’s no wonder you freaked out!
Post # 15
Each time I think about “what if this was the first time we TRY to get pregnant” it really does scare the crap out of me. So I completely understand. It’s a big thing to commit to!