Post # 1
My fiance and I looked at a venue we aboslutely loved and are returning to do a tasting and compare it to 3 other venues in the same area before we make a final decision and put down a deposit. The venue’s full service, so the caterer, DJ and all set up for the ceremony, cocktail hour and reception will be taken care of.
We need to find the officiant, photographer, florist and buy the extra booze. And of course, start figring out when to ask our friends/family that we want in our wedding party, Save-The-Date Cards, invites, dresses, songs for first dance, ceremony, playlist, block booking hotel rooms for guests, my dress!!, etc. I’m sure I’m forgetting a ton of minor stuff.
I keep seeing conflicting lists, so I was wondering if anyone could share some insight on what order to do all this stuff in? We just got engaged 3 weeks ago and we’re aiming for a 9/13/2014 wedding or 09/20/2014 wedding in PA (I’m still looking at weather history since it will be outdoors). Thank you everyone
Post # 3
There’s no right way to do it – I just started with the biggest stuff first (date, venue, church, photographer, videographer, wedding party). Then I spent some time on the dress. Then I took a break :). Then I started with the medium stuff (decor, flowers, ceremony music, bridesmaid dresses, men’s attire). Next on my list will be the smaller stuff (registry, invitations, transportation, hair, make up, etc).
Once you get the biggest stuff out of the way things just kind of follow from there, I found.
Post # 4
I totally agree with SanJessica that there is no right way or wrong way to do it. We’re getting married on 12/12/14 and got engaged in Feburary. I’m a planner or maybe a Type A personality so I wanted to get the big things booked early 🙂
We booked the church, venue, and officiant within 6 weeks of getting engaged. Since then we’ve booked the DJ, photographer, transportation, and hair and makeup people-only because we have a big wedding party and I will be getting ready in a hotel, so needed travleing people.
In the meanwhile I’ve been looking at dresses, ordering wedding invitations samples-just to get an idea of what I like, brainstorming favors, how I want the cake to look, flowers, and bridesmaids dresses. I know there are tons of little things that I haven’t even started on yet but I think if you get the big things out of the way its much less stressful and fun!
I’m from PA also but getting married in NJ-where my fiance is from. Where is your wedding? 🙂
Post # 5
Thanks ladies! Yeah, I think that getting the venue booked will be a huge relief. Even though the date’s very far away, we feel more comfortable securing a location since we have a lot of out of town guests flying in from across and outside the country. We’ve already made decisions on who’s in the wedding party, what kind of Save-The-Date Cards we want to order, the cake and guestlist. It’s only been 3 weeks, but I am grateful that I’m with someone who’s very active in the planning process and knows how important the outdoor fall wedding theme is to me, so I’m not overwhlemed 🙂
Megs, I’m from NY, my fiance is from PA but we really want an outdoor wedding in a rustic or vineyard setting so we’re probably going to go with Fonthill Castle in Doylestown, PA or Crossings Vineyard in Bucks County if the tour and tasting we’ve schedule in a few weekends goes well. I’m looking forward to all the planning, especially once the biggest things have been taken care of! I already know what dress I want (I saw it in a store window and instantly fell in love with it) but I’m holding out until we book the big stuff 🙂
Post # 6
We had been engaged 5 months now almost 6 and we just booked our venue for our 9/27/14 wedding! It was my biggest concerne and it was such a relief to get it booked. I was going crazy trying to choose a venue! 🙂 Next on my list is most likely photogrpaher and caterer. We have cake plans, colors, and decor in the works as well.