Post # 1
Hi fellow bees, we are meeting a surgeon today to discuss carpal tunnel surgery for my (dominant) right hand. Boyfriend or Best Friend is going with me, in fact took the whole day off so we can talk to the billing office at doc, my work and insurance, and discuss and plan including paperwork for protected leave from work for my surgery and recovery.
He is hoping I might be able to have physical therapy instead of surgery. I’m not thinking that is going to cut it (pun intended). At any rate, I am nervous and I think he is too.
Looking forward very much to feeling better, as I’ve had a lot of pain lately and this problem started about 15 years ago. It is strange to have him participating in all of this, and still not be engaged. It’s okay, just feel it would be less awkward with the surgeon if I could say, this is my fiance or this is my husband.
Thanks for listening; please send good thoughts. 🙂
Post # 3
Sending you thoughts and good vibes!
Post # 5
Thanks ladies! Surgery is scheduled for March 16.
Post # 6
Well, maybe he’s not your husband or fiance. But he seems like an Amazing boyfriend. Good luck. Hope everything goes well.
Post # 7
Good luck with the surgery! Surgery sucks, I know from experience, but hopefully it will really help you out here!
I’m really glad that your boyfriend is stepping up to be supportive, good boyfriends make good husband material, yes? I also totally understand though how it would be better if he was your fiancé in the medical world. I have fears creep up now and then about what would happen if my boyfriend was in an accident. EEEEEK!
If you get too nervous when it gets closer to the surgery date come back here on the bee and I’m sure we will all be more than happy to help you calm down.
Post # 8
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I’m sending good vibes your way! My father had to get the surgery on both of his hands. We were kind of worried because he’s a dentist and couldn’t work without his hands, but luckily, he regained full function and was free of pain relatively quickly.
Post # 9
Good luck with the surgery! One of my coworkers had that surgery done a month ago on both hands (!) and she said it was one of the best things she has ever done and she wishes she had done it sooner. She said all of the carpel tunnel pain was gone immediately after the surgery, and the only part that hurt was where the incision sites were located.
Post # 10
We just had our weekly counseling session, and I feel there has been progress. *sigh of relief*.
Post # 11
Good luck with everything! My fiance came will me for my tonsillectomy, and during the pre-op paperwork, the nurse was like “this is your husband?” And I said, “my fiance,” and she was like, “okay, you’re going to be the healthcare proxy, sign here.” If you guys are close enough for him to come with you for a doctors appointment like that, then people know you’re legit, and they won’t care that you’re not wearing jewelry to prove it.
Post # 12
I hope that it goes well! Both my parents had it done and also one of my school friends. I think I will end up having it done eventually since I’m already having to wear braces at night for it.
Post # 13
Thanks for all the cheering and info. It really helps! Now I have a day off before me today. I am hoping that I have all the things in mind and on lists to make my surgery/recovery work well.
I have some questions. One is, what have you heard from friends who had the scope surgery instead of incision? I am scheduled for incision, but could change to scope. I read in a book by a hand surgeon that he prefers the incision because it gives you longer to heal before you have to return to work. Any recommendations/ideas?
I have been calling my creditors to let them know I will be out of work for 6 weeks, and making arrangements to start paying again after my recovery. I’ve decided to pay my cell bill 4 months in advance, since it’s possible to pay for 3 months and get the 4th free. No phone bills until July!
Basically, I’m trying to limit expenditures so I will have something to live on for the next couple of months. Less than 3 weeks of my leave will be paid.
I have been reading online about things to do to prepare for surgery. My biggest issue seems to be preparing so I will be as independent as possible. Boyfriend or Best Friend is willing to help me but doesn’t want to be overburdened. I’m sure of this, since we talked about it in therapy last night. Any specific ideas? I am most concerned about food, since I won’t be able to grind and brew my own coffee and wonder what types of food packages I will be able to open. Thanks bees, you are the best!
Post # 14
Hey, sorting out more details for the surgery, feeling anxious and needy. Blech.
Post # 15
Sending you some prayers and positive vibes 🙂
Post # 16
He doesn’t want to be overburdened? He might need to come to grips with the fact that you are having surgery and will need help doing most things for at least the first few days. When I had surgery, my FI- (then BF), had to help me up and down the stairs, take a shower, cook, clean, carry anything, (since I was on crutches), and drive me to all of my post op appointments.