We Are Scared. Moving Across Country For Better Job.

posted 5 months ago in Career
Post # 16
437 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I lived your worst case scenario. I took a chance to move far away for a new job, and…I hated it. It wasn’t the job for me, and that fact sucked. BUT…it was fun! Experiencing new places is fun. Meeting new people is fun. Having to do things, away from your family, is fun. And guess what? Nothing is permanent. As I closed in on the one year mark, I started applying for jobs back home, and I got one. You’re not locked in, so just go in with arms wide open. It’ll be challenging, but it’ll be so fun.

Post # 17
6996 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Change can be scary, but it can also be great. 

The plus side is it’s ONLY 2 years of your life. I can promise you if you are out actively exploring and finding things to do in your new city those two years will fly by. If you hate it, you can always start looking into other options – but you might find that you love it. 

I’ve not lived in Portland, but I have live in Florida. In fact, Darling Husband and I moved to FL for college and his job many years ago. I HATED IT. I sucked it up and made the best of it, and have some great friends from our time there but I was so ready to move. We were there just shy of 3 years and looking it back it wasn’t the worst time in our lives. In all honesty it actually made our relationship stronger because it was us against the world as opposed to living 5 minutes from family. 

It sounds like you’re on the right track and thinking positive. I would make the most out of everything the area has to offer. Make a “to-do” list of all the things you’d like to see and do while there. Make sure the list has a good mixture of free things to do, because it can start to feel like every adventure/activity is costing money….and while you want to enjoy your time there if he’s making more money you want to make sure you’re saving and improving your quality of life. 

Post # 18
1572 posts
Bumble bee

You sound like such a lovely supportive partner. I haven’t been but I googled it and looks like an awesome place to live. Every new adventure is scary but I’m sure it will be worth it and you will have the time of your lives! MAin thing is you will have each other ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 20
2199 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

laureng1 :  Welcome to Vancouver! I’ve lived in Portland my whole life, but we built our house on the north side of the river, so I’m a Washingtonian now!

I can say that if it were me, I’d be terrified to move to FL! It is so different in so many ways, it’s easy to see how it would feel intimidating. 

Sounds like you got here during Rose Festival; things are always kind of a mess during that time. Especially fleet week when the bridges go up like 7 or 8 times a day. Most of the time, things are a lot less hectic. 

The nice thing about Vancouver is that while it’s starting to get some of the benefits of Portland – the food is improving – it still feels a lot smaller. Traffic is much less congested, and it’s possible to go out to breakfast without waiting in line somewhere. 

You got here right at the time when the weather starts to improve pretty dramatically. It’s changed a lot since I was a kid, where you could still have cold grey days during the height of summer. Now we often get long stretches of days in the 90s. Personally, I think fall is where it’s at around here. 

It’s about a 2 hour drive to the beach from here, but I highly recommend a trip once you are settled. The trip out is a lovely drive through the Coast Range under a treed canopy. Oregon set aside almost its entire coastline as public land, so there are tons of places to go out on the beach.

Astoria is full of historic houses and charm, too. It’s technically on the Columbia River and not the ocean, but it’s a great stop on the way. It’s also where Goonies was filmed! It’ll be very different to what you are used to, but it has its own wild beauty. The water is super cold though, so swimming probably isn’t super appealing. Cannon Beach is my favorite. It’s a cute little village with a giant Haystack Rock (one of several along the coast) and Ecola State Park. 

I could play virtual tour guide all day, but suffice it to say, the PNW is an amazingly beautiful place to live. Though it must feel overwhelming, over the last couple decades, a TON of transplants have moved in, making it a much more diverse place AND making it more friendly to newcomers. A lot of people you’ll encounter aren’t from around here either, so it’s easier to make friends than you might think – you already have something in common!

Feel free to DM me if you have any questions or want recommendations. And again, welcome to Vansterdam!

Post # 21
25 posts

Sounds like your settling in, enjoy your new city. I would stalk yard sales for some furniture pieces to get started. 

Post # 22
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

laureng1 :  Those times are the best and you’ll always remember the time when you lived with almost nothing and how you were able to get by as well and then it’s so rewarding when you look back on what you were able to build.

Good luck and I’m happy that you’re enjoying things!

Post # 23
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Hubby and I moved away years ago, 2 cross country moves just the two of us. It was a really eye opening experience and we’ve grown our marriage so much and gained all our independence. I think it will be just fine and you will be happy, if not then there are options in other areas too. Don’t worry everything will be fine ๐Ÿ™‚

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