(Closed) We are torn on having a "real" wedding or not

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
3616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@DW82:  You “want them to want…” is the problem. That must be tiring, trying to control the feeling of others.

Ok, it’s disppointing that they are not all OMGDW82’SWEDDINGSOFAB! but they have lives, let them live those lives. The sweet part of that deal is that they let you live YOUR life where you get to do what YOU want to do.

  No doubt some people will like to attend a “Real” wedding. But I think that you are follish if you spend a lot on this thing.

Post # 21
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@DW82:  I know that is the image that a lot of people have of courthouse weddings, but not all courthouses are the same.  FI and I were originally planning to get married at the courthouse in Santa Barbara, and my mom had a fit until she saw pictures of it:


(unfortunately, we were unable to have it here due to family logistics)

Again, if you talk to a photographer in Seattle about scenic locations, then maybe you can find a justice of the peace or other officiant willing to do a ceremony in a beautiful location other than a courthouse or church?  

Post # 23
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@DW82:  Hm…the main reason why we didn’t go to Santa Barbara was because my godfather wasn’t well enough to fly cross-country.  So I understand that the logistics might be a headache.

If you’re going to just have a small wedding with immediate family, then getting a ‘wedding venue” probably doesn’t make sense and you may be better off finding a nice restaurant with a beautiful courtyard or fireplace or something.  Again, if you research photographers, they may be able to help you with figuring out a nice location because they have local knowledge, and may even have example photos.

Maybe you and Fiance should just get married in Seattle (with a dress and photographer) and spend the night there, go on your honeymoon the next day, and then have a nice dinner with your family when you get back?

Post # 24
1633 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Here’s an idea…get married on a cruise ship. The chappels are small and your family will fill up the pews. 

Post # 26
2094 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@DW82:  You should have what YOU want, for ONLY YOU. That’s it. No one else matters. 

I have found when I make a choice, everything starts flowing. Just make it. And you’ll see. And if it’s not the right choice…you’ll know. 🙂

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