Post # 1
Our almost 3 year old lab is 90 lbs and bigger than me in some ways. We have a queen bed and he loves to sleep where my legs should be and he gets on and off the bed throughout the night. I’m a light sleeper so I honestly never get any sleep. On top of that, I hate seeing spots all over my bedspread from him licking or other stuff lol
I really love our cuddle time together. It was such a hard decision to make but I ultimately decided that I need my sleep and he will be fine in his own bed and we can still cuddle on the couch or floor during the day. I still feel like a bad momma when I have to tell him to get down or when he just stares at me while I’m laying in bed. It’s only been 3 days and he is catching on but I still feel so horrile 🙁
Please tell me it’s ok! Or tell me it’s not and that I should let him back in the bed lol
Post # 2
He will be just fine! Our dog is a 115 lbs lab mix and is no furniture dog, not allowed on our bed or sofa and he doesn’t even try. We have our cuddle time on the floor. We’ve allowed him on the bed a few times, and I just can’t sleep at all with al lthe space he takes up!
Post # 3
Thank you for the reassurance. Has he always been a no-furniture dog? We started that way but it only lasted a few months. Now I regret letting him on bc it feels like I am punishing him.
Post # 4
Yes, he’s always been a no furniture dog and he never tried. (DH grew up with his dad having that as a rule so it just stuck.) I think we lucked out cause even now if we tell him “up” and tap the couch, he wont so much as put his two feet on it and it takes a LOT of encouragement for him to jump all the way up. Before we tossed out DHs old college couch, we made that the dog couch and he was allowed on that. But he’s always known the difference between “his” couch and “our” couch. Naw, I dont think he woudl see it as punishment.. as long as he has a nice comfy bed of his own and is still near by.
Post # 5
Our dog sleeps on her own bed. She’s fine. She doesn’t act any less pampered. Your dog will be fine too. It’s good for many dogs to have set spaces of their own behavioral wise and for training.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2021 - City, State
Yeah we have no furniture dog, my grans rule was “the floor is high enough” and it stuck
Post # 7
I love animals, and can’t wait until we have our own house so we can get a dog, but I’ve never seen the attraction of having an animal sleep on your bed. Imagine your DH tried to get into bed wearing his outdoor shoes, never brushed his teeth, didn’t shower regularly or wipe after going to the loo…gross, right?! Well, it’s only the same as if you let a dog sleep with you!
we had dogs all the time when I was growing up, and they had plenty of love, cuddles and affection, without ever climbing on the furniture. I’ll probably get shot down in flames from all the bees with pets, but I honestly just don’t get it.
Post # 8
you’re not a bad fur momma at all! Our dog has never been allowed to sleep in our bed – I can hardly stand having to share with my husband lol. Our dog is a lab/shep miz and he’s 80 pounds! He would take up a lot of space. On the weekends we allow him to come up and snuggle early in the mornings and he knows he can only come up if he’s invited. He wasn’t even allowed on the couch until recently, but again he knows that if he jumps up there without an invitation he’s getting sent back to the floor. He still loves us and we still have plenty of cuddles (you’ll often find me or my husband lying on the floor with him lol).
Post # 9
Our dog is still a puppy and sleeps in his crate at night. But when he gets larger I will really reinforce his bed is the crate or the bed on the floor. The only animal allowed up there is my husband haha kidding, kidding. We do allow the 9 lb cat to sleep on the bed.
Post # 10
No way!! Our dog is only 60 lbs, but we still trained her to stay off furniture. We decided to keep her off the couch for a few reasons. One, because our couch isnt very big.. but also because we often have my nephews over who are a little bit nervous of dogs. I like them to have a safe space on the couch, where she cant knock them over with excitement. I also think about this when we have our own kids, and would like to be able to lay my babies on the couch, without having to worry about her jumping on top of them. We let her sleep in our bed a few nights at the beginning, and although she is only 60 lbs, she laid on top of the blankets, making it hard to pull them up when i got cold lol.. and because shes obsessed with my dh, she was contsantly wedged in between us. I think that our bed should just be ours. Now she doesnt even attempt to get in our bed or on the couch. She puts herself to bed happily on her bed beside ours.
Post # 11
He will be fine! We have an 80 pound Husky/German Sheperd mix and until my husband and I got married we were living together and would occasionally let him in the bed. Before that, whenever I slept on my own he normally slept with me. But he’s just too big to fit now and I’m a light sleeper as well. He’s allowed on the couch and we have a lovesac that he’s pretty much claimed as his. We keep our bedroom door open at night and normally when I wake up in the morning he’s curled up on it in the living room. Dogs are pretty easy going as long as your giving them love during the day! If it makes you feel any better, give your dog a a small blanket of some sort. My husband used to get these micro fleece blankets from work and we always give them to our dog. He loves them and the one he has now is all torn up but he carries it around with him everywhere and he even sleeps with it most nights!
Post # 12
I let our two cats sleep in our king size bed with us but not our 67lb dog. He gets his cuddle time with us on the couch which is where he prefers to sleep with his Pottery Barn fur throw. Freaking spoiled brat.
Post # 13
I was literally just talking about this with my husband!
We have two large dogs (Saint Bernard 135 lbs and Cane Corso 125 lbs) that have slept with us since they were pups. We decided that its going to be the best for everyone once we have a baby.
I am interested to know how you trained him though!
Post # 14
Thank you everyone. I am really starting to feel better about this decision. I may need to reference this tab a few times until he’s fully trained!
So far we have basically just been telling him to get down and motioning towards his bed. Last night I brought up some treats and I plan to start “putting him to bed” and giving him a treat each time he lays on his bed. We’ll see how it goes.
Post # 15
DH’s dog had free range of his place. they slept in the bed together, he was allowed on all the furniture. then they moved it with me and i didn’t allow it.
the dog learned. he now knows, he is only allowed on the couch in the basement when we put his blanket on our lap, then he can jump up.
and he is only allowed in the bed on special occassions when he is invited up. like last week when we got back from a week vacation and DH missed the dog, i was changing the sheets later that afternoon, so he could come in the bed while we napped for a little bit.