We asked a friend to be the officiant

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

chelebean :  We did this.  It was great!  We gave her the ceremony script weeks in advance so she could practice, and she glued the script into an old book, which she decorated. (So she wasn’t just holding a bunch of papers!)  You can see part of the ceremony in this short video…

 

https://vimeo.com/84385026

 

 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

We asked my father in law although he’s not ordained. We just did the legal stuff earlier so that didn’t matter. It was so meaningful to have him do that for us… I wouldn’t change it for the world.  He said a prayer, we shared vows and then he introduced us as husband and wife. Nothing out of the ordinary, but it wouldn’t have been legal.

My cousin also had a friend officiate (an actual pastor) and I know they were all very happy with that decision too.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We were kind of looking at this, but its very difficult to get it ‘approved’ where we’re getting married. They want you to use the govt people so you have to jump through hoops to use a private person. But I love the sentimentality of using a friend, especially someone who knows both of you.

Post # 6
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969 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College

I was hoping to ask my godmother, but my sister mentioned this weekend that she would rather officiate than be the matron of honor. I’m still a little torn.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We were supposed to have one of my husband’s coworker buddies officiate our wedding. Turns out he is an alcoholic (I knew he drank, but not to that extent), so he never showed up! Luckily, I had the ceremony script on my iPad that I just happened to bring with me. Also, there were at least four other people at our wedding that could officiate so we had my friend/former boss do it. He didn’t even get a chance to read everything over so he had to do a cold read, but he did a great job!

Post # 8
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Helper bee

We asked our good friend to be the officiant and he was great! It was more personal and he’s really funny so he added a lot of humor to our ceremony. Highly recommend!

Post # 9
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767 posts
Busy bee

That’s what my husband and I did for our first ceremony. No regrets at all. It’s a personal choice.

Friend made no mistakes, she did a wonderful job. Even if she had made mistakes, the most important thing for us was that she officiate 🙂

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Yes, we had a very close friend as our officiant, no bridal party. He did a really excellent job. My husband and I wrote the whole ceremony. The whole thing felt really personal and special!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

chelebean :  We asked one of my best friends to be our officiant! It was a lovely experience and it felt so authentic and “us” to be married by her. It wasn’t even a consideration to ask anyone else. We wrote my wedding ceremony (I brought in a massive part of it and she helped me clean it up and make it cohesive). She became a notary in order for it to be official. Yeah, all around awesome experience. Unless you are having a super religious wedding, I don’t know why more people don’t ask close friends or family members to marry them?

Post # 12
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198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We asked my Brother-In-Law to officiate our ceremony. We did tons of research – A Practical Wedding and Offbeat Bride were particularly valuable resources. He wrote the script, we went through it 2 times together, but he surprised us by editing it one last time and adding some extra special parts. If you pick someone who is comfortable in front of a crowd, confident in new situations, and dedicated enough to practice, your ceremony will be amazing.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

This worked great for us and the ceremony was great but definitely added some stress that I didn’t anticipate!! I spent a lot of time writing the ceremony. My husband is dyslexic so if that weren’t the case we could have split it up, but writing is hard for him and comes fairly naturally to me.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

chelebean : We did this I just wrote our own ceremony from things I liked online. I think it was about 4 minutes long. haha Loved it, it was so special to have our friend marry us! 

Post # 15
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3999 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

DH’s best friend got ordained online and he officiated our ceremony. He did a fantastic job! We had a pretty intricate ceremony with a handfasting and he did it all perfectly! I can’t imagine a better person for us. 

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