Post # 1
my fiance and I just booked our honeymoon to Sandals Antigua, wahoo! I can’t wait to spend a week with my man lounging on the beach and enjoying all the fun things the resort and the island have to offer. It’s exactly the kind of vacation we want, and it will be an incredible first vacation together.
That being said, we told our friends we were going to Antigua, and instead of being happy for us, one of our guy friends told us that we made a huge mistake by having an awesome honeymoon. He said that it “sets the standard too high for future vacations” and that a beach vacation would suck. And he went on for like three hours.
I totally understand that people have different values and like different things, but he seriously bypassed the insincere “I’m happy for you guys” train and went right on to tell us that we made a bad choice. In the end I don’t really care what he thinks, and he can go sit in Alaska* while I sip Mai Tai’s on the beach, but it was just a rude moment in the whole wedding process. Has anyone else experienced anything like that?
*note – not knocking alaskan honeymoons, because they seem really cool, I just want to be warm after an Ohio winter. Just covering all the bases to not be hypocritical. 🙂
Post # 3
It’s your Honeymoon! It should be awesome and unforgettable. Why in the world would you settle for a something less awesome just so future vacations can compare. That’s just silly. I wouldn’t listen to him. I think it sounds awesome, and even if I, or anyone else, didn’t, who cares? It’s your honeymoon, not anyone else’s.
We ended up staying in a lodge in the Adirondacks and going mountain climbing. Wasn’t my first choice, but it made me husband sooo happy.
Post # 5
Seriously, how can you ‘set the bar too high for future vacations’? I guess you should just stick to lame holidays? Never do amazing things? Plus, what’s to say you’ll never return to Antigulla or another, equally amazing, place?
Just smile and move on
Post # 6
That’s pretty high on the weirdness scale. I have to ask, he went on for three hours? Might you have cut him off after, say, two minutes – with a firm “Sorry to hear you’re unenthused about our choice of destination, but it’s a good thing you won’t be joining us!” There’s no reason to subject yourself to bizarre tirades from other people like that.
Post # 7
@IvyClimb: we were at a friend’s house for dinner and it was early on in the night. I definitely tried to cut him off with curt messages like “Good thing you’re not going,” but he obviously didn’t get the message.
I’d like to add that this guy and his wife did live together before getting married, got married and didn’t tell anyone, and then told us afterwards, and then had a ceremony and reception with friends and family. They also had an unenthusiastic honeymoon… that they came back from early. I hate to say he’s jealous but all signs kinda point to it.
This guy could literally argue about anything even if he’s wrong. he argued that women couldn’t possibly be born with all of their eggs … seriously?
Post # 8
Uhhh, that’s what he thinks and what he thinks only. Yeah, just ignore his comment.
Post # 9
@eliwhit: Believe me, you did not make a mistake in booking a honeymoon to Antigua! You will be sooo happy when you are lounging on the beach with a drink in your hand doing absolutely nothing!! Also, your honeymoon should not be the BEST vacation of your life because you are still young and have time to earn more money and take more extravagant vacations. However, you only get one honeymoon so why not do it right!?
Post # 10
I would ignore his comment. He sounds jealous. Antigua is amazing by the way, you will both have a fantastic time!
Post # 11
Eh, people like to talk. We haven’t had anything that rude about our choice of destination but I have heard from a few people that they don’t like hawaii and my mom really didn’t understand why we needed a honeymoon at all (or at least, one that was more than a few days away in a cabin somewhere in driving distance). I don’t really care what anyone else thinks of our honeymoon– we’re totally excited! And in regards to “making too big a deal” of it… umm… its your HONEYMOON. If it were at all possible for us to do a once in a lifetime month long safari that could never be topped, I’d totally do it! I think honeymoons are a perfect time to “go big”. We can’t actually afford to do that much but I still think that going somewhere “cool” was important to me. If it means foregoing some stuff for the wedding or waiting a little longer for stuff we want after the wedding, well ok.
Post # 12
@CorgiTales: One of my best friends went to Hawaii. BEST. VACAY. EVER. Expensive though but she said it was so totally worth it. She also came back with a honeymoon baby 🙂
To the OP, jealous much? I don’t have friends like that but if I did, you best believe I’m not going to sit around arguing with you for 3 WHOLE HOURS!! Thanks but no thanks. I need to go buy some sunscreen for my upcoming honeymoon ‘mmmmkaaayyyy?
Post # 13
I wouldn’t worry about what others have to say. You will have a GREAT time. We went to Sandals Antigua for our honeymoon a little over a month ago and it was awesome!! It was wonderful to not have to worry about anything except each other and whether we were going to hang out at the pool or the beach that day. 🙂
Post # 14
I’m definitely not worried about what he said/rethinking our honeymoon, because it is going to be the bomb. I just couldn’t believe that anyone would be that rude. Who tells someone that their honeymoon will suck? Lame. He can go jump in a lake.
Post # 15
First of all, shout out to Sandals Antigua! That is where we are going too!
I agree with others that it’s jealousy! It seems like he wished he had a better honeymoon himself, especially considering his experience that you described.
I had the opposite judgement of myself when we booked, and wondered if it would be lame and boring! I have a long list of interesting places I want to go where there are lots of historical and cultural things to do and see. When we booked Sandals Antigua, I kind of judged myself and thought, “Is this a lame vacation or a traveling cop-out?”
Then I snapped out of it! It’s an experience just like any other vacation! Neither FH nor I have ever been to an all-inclusive resort or to a tropical island. It’s something new and different for us and we can’t wait!
Post # 16
I would have told that guy to stuff it 🙂 What a jerk. If he starts up again, you tell him to get over himself and if he doesn’t have anything nice to say then to keep it to himself because you’re not interested in his verbal diarrhea. Vent done.
We had a honeymoon that was like a dream and I wouldn’t have changed a moment of it for the world. And no, it doesn’t make any vacations afterwards seem like crap. We wanted our honeymoon to be a unique and stand out above any other vacation we’d had, so that’s why we chose the one we did!