Post # 1
By FH and I have both bought engagement rings for eachother (we both know about this). We’ve agreed he does the traditional boy ask girl proposal to be official. He has a proposal plan that’s secret and is taking pleasure in making me wait for it. He believes he should get HIS ering by default upon his proposal to me. I think I should propose back to him at a date TBD after his proposal date. However he does not believe it’s possible to get “twice engaged” with the second proposal and that my plan is failed logic. I believe he doesn’t want a taste of his own waiting game.
I know this is an untraditional area, but given both parties want erings how might you handle this?
Post # 3
@Pele: I bought my fiance an engagement ring and “proposed” to him again a few months after he proposed to me. He wears it all day every day and it makes him feel happy.
Post # 4
I say you make him wait for his too. He should not automatically get his when he asks you! This is so fun!! Very cool idea…
Post # 5
I proposed to my Fiance first. He said he was going to buy the ring next month so I ended up choosing my ring together with him. He gave me the ring the day we announced our engagement to my parents (1,5 months after the initial proposal).
In your case – when both rings are already bought and it is a given thing he will propose first – I think I would make him wait. I would only give him his ring directly after his proposal if he didn’t know he was getting one. If he knows it is coming, by all means, let him wait 😉
And if it bothers him, don’t call it a second proposal, you could for example say it is a special treat to show him how happy you are. Or you could plan it as a small engagement anniversary – one week/month/… after his proposal 🙂
Post # 6
Just get the rings and give them to each other…. if you are talking about getting engagement rings and getting engaged, the “surprise” of the proposals are gone. To me, therre is no need for proposing then.
Post # 7
I think it’d be sweet to do a special proposal for him =)
Post # 8
I agree with your SO on this one. Once you’ve said yes to his proposal, you will have accepted it and will already be engaged, so it doesn’t make sense to have him wait for you to propose to him at another point in time. I would give him the ring immediately after he proposes to you (or as soon after as is practical, since you likely won’t just be carrying it around with you when he surprises you with a proposal.)
However, what I would suggest is that he allow you to plan a lovely surprise for him at some point in time after your engagement so that you can look forward to planning something (a special dinner at an expensive restaurant, for example), and he can look forward to having you surprise him with a special evening — as another celebration of your engagement or “just because.” 🙂
Post # 9
It would be special to wait for him to propose (That’s the traditionalist in me talking) and carry his around with you so you can give him his during “the proposal”. I think it’s too cute how the two of you are both getting e-rings!