Post # 1
Heartbroken bee here.
Last Saturday night drinks at home with me and SO took a turn. We ended up in a fight which resulted in me leaving the house and breaking up with him. Both had had a fair bit to drink. When I arrived home the next morning I had this really bad gut feel… and I went through his phone (please note I don’t normally do this).
I was SHOCKED to see… messages between him and prostitutes trying to arrange for them to come to our house the night I had left… and messages between him and some girls we both knew. I confronted him and he said he was ‘hurting’ and that’s why he did it.
No one came to our house that night. The prostitute was ‘booked out’ and I will never know wether this is the reason or if he came to his senses.
I was devastated and moved all my stuff out of the house that day. It’s now been a week. He has been in contact with me multiple times this week. Until now we have never had a problem and were in a happy relationship. I really do want to go back there but know this will always be there and trust will be low.
can I please have some opinions !
Post # 2
What was the fight that caused you to break up about?
Post # 3
I’m not as worried about the postitute as I am about the mutual friend he texted. Guys do dumb things when they’re drunk.
But messaging a woman you both know? That’s a huge red flag for me! Sorry to say it Bee, but it seems like he’s not emotionally invested anymore if he starts texting another girl after a fight.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2021 - British Columbia, Canada
You dodged a bullet and can now happily move on knowing you didn’t marry a slimebag that immediately starts looking for hookers within hours of any sort of difficulty.
Post # 5
Oh bee. I’m so sorry. That sounds awful. No advice just sympathy
Post # 6
Yeah, I’ve learned the hard way – never break up with someone unless you truly mean it. There are often no takebacksies.
Question – how did he ‘get’ with someone that night if no one came to the house?
I don’t know why you have portrayed that you are in a happy relationship because based on your posts you are not. You fight, he’s manipulative and controlling. You were just wondering if you were in an abusive relationship, so I don’t know how you jump from that to happiness and rainbows. And yes, I know it said you were posting for another Bee but I don’t really believe that given this turn of events.
You and your SO fought, you left your house for the night leaving him to think I don’t know what, then he immediately started messaging prostitutes and ‘women he knows’. So your relationship is obviously pretty crap, no matter how sad you are right now.
My opinion is that you are young and you should move on to someone who is a better match for you.
Post # 7
I’m sorry, but in a happy relationship a man does not seek out prostitutes and friends of his partner’s after a fight. I don’t care how upset or lonely or drunk he was. Stop telling yourself that everything was so great. He certainly wasn’t.
I’d pick someone who doesn’t get drunk in the future. But I have no tolerance for drunks.
Post # 8
bambii : messaging prostitutes isn’t a dumb thing guys do when drunk.
What your ex did is unacceptable and there is no excusing it. I don’t believe for a second that you had a happy relationship before this argument where you broke up with him AND LEFT THE HOUSE. That’s no normal argument.
Get STD tested as asap.
Post # 9
Just re read your last post. Get away from this guy already. You are not in a healthy relationship.
Post # 10
bambii : you’re not worried about the pro?… like what?!?
beeeyonce : I know all of your other threads. This relationship has so many red flags it’s outrageous. Leave for good. It’s over.
Post # 11
I’d be most worried about the prostitute. Average guys don’t just know where to contact prostitutes, I think? It would make me think it’s not the first time he’s hired one.
Post # 12
I’m not sure what normal person has a fight with their partner and thinks “You know what? I need a hooker!”
Bullet dodged. Idc how drunk he was.
Post # 13
beeeyonce : you dodged a huge bullet with this guy. Seriously, you have a fight and break up and his first thought is to call a prostitute within a few hours of a break up. That is not the behavior of a normal person. 😒
I know you are hurting but trust me this was all for the best. You don’t want to mistakenly hitch your life to a guy who thinks it’s normal to call hookers or mutual friends an hour after a break up. It sounds like your ex was Charlie Sheen.
Post # 14
He just happened to have multiple prostitutes’ numbers handy??? Go get tested for every STD tomorrow and again in a few months.
Post # 15
beeeyonce : I think you are better out of this relationship as it clearly wasn’t healthy
but you broke up with him so you have no grounds to be upset or going through his phone. You were no longer in a relationship.