(Closed) I don’t know how we are going to afford our wedding.

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

That’s so stressful!  I know what you mean about medical bills, I was just put into physical therapy by my doctor and I’m not sure how long they want me to stay with it.  We have enough to cover it for a month but then it will start cutting into our cash flow.  Being an adult sometimes sucks!

Post # 4
Member
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I know how that goes. Things just kept coming up in the last so many years that it made saving impossible! My FH had to borrow $ from his 401K to get my ring because thes tore was going to close or we wouldn’t even be engaged yet and in wanting to start planning NOW, it’s just so expensive out there. WHat is supposed to be such a happy time is just so stressful so I feel for you. Hang in there and hopefully it will all work itself out! I’m sure you will have a wonderful wedding!!!

Post # 5
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1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@SweetRose2011: I don’t know if you want to answer this but i’m going to ask anyway. How much is your wedding going to cost?

 

Post # 6
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2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

IMO, a bachelor and bachelorette party are TOTALLY expendable and would be one of the first things to go from the budget. They’re nice, but you can hang out and party with your friends anytime, and they’re not at all necessary to the wedding, especially if money is just too tight. I’d be a little sad to see the honeymoon go too, but maybe you could just put it off til the spring and save in the meantime? Plenty of bees do that, and I know you’ve said you’re worried it might be too cold to do much anyway… maybe you could just plan a honeymoon for spring/summer when there’d be more to do and you’d have less money stress.

What about the DJ? You could do an iPod reception and cut that cost. I know these are all things you’ve probably thought of so I’m not breaking the mold here, but I think if you have to cut anything, those are the things to cut. 

Post # 7
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2547 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I know that many bees will jump down my throat, but in order for a nice honeymoon, if you buy last minute deals, you can go on an all inclusive for cheap, and I’m talking 500-649 pp cheap. Couldn’t you just put it on a credit card, and pay it off within the year. And that way you can still go on a honeymoon? I mean 1200 bucks really isn’t that much money to pay off in a certain period of time.

Post # 8
Member
1679 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I told my friends/family that I didn’t want any showers or a bachelorette party.  It’s an expense for them and an expense for me (because I know I’d use them as a reason to buy dresses!). 

If you already live together, you probably won’t miss celebrating a last night of singlehood.

Post # 9
Member
1136 posts
Bumble bee

We’ve had to move our wedding and post pone our wedding because of money. We have between a 3k-7k budget. we will know more after I come home. but post poning isn’t a bad idea

Post # 10
Member
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We just got married, 7/7/11, and my budget was $5000 and I spent $6500.  The most expensive items was photography, wedding dinner, and clothing.  We had a mini-moon instead a honeymoon, IPOD instead of a DJ, wedding dinner, instead of reception, and ceremony only flowers.  Was it worth it?  Definitely.  We have no wedding debt and no one would know our budget unless I told you.

 

Post # 12
Member
6351 posts
Bee Keeper

@SweetRose2011: to build credit, start with a store card-Kohls, Macys. That’s how I did it.

Post # 13
Hostess
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I hear your pain! We are going through the same number crunching in trying to figure out how to pay for the honeymoon.

I think we are just going to cut out any and all extras we can between now and then. A penny saved is a penny earned!

Post # 14
Member
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@SweetRose2011:  Eek.  I feel for you.  Being from Illinois too I’m not sure how you are even doing it for that much!  Invitations haven’t gone out right?  Its time to cut the guest list.  That is the one single factor that will save money.  Invite only the most important people and def get rid of those plus ones and kids!

Post # 15
Member
3011 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@SoontobeMrsA: Agreed.

Another way is to get a low limit credit card.  Fill up your gas tank once in awhile using said credit card and paying it off right away.

I know couples who are STILL paying off their wedding expenses.  Granted that’s not the life to live as a newlywed, but I also hear that they wouldn’t have changed a thing in the world.  To each their own.

Post # 16
Member
11384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

You could probably cut cost if you get married in a Church. As other people said cut the guest list by alot. Less people means less food, drinks, ect to pay for. Start DIYing stuff while you still have time! You can make alot of things, check out the DIY boards on here. You can rent his tux instead of buying it. I would have suggested a back yard reception but you are getting married in November so IDK how cold it would be where you are. Do a buffet instead of a sit down dinner. Cut back on drinks you can always do a cash bar or you can just have cheaper drinks like beer, then have the rest of the drinks in the cash bar. Buy stuff online, you can always find stuff cheaper online. Dollar store has ALOT of nice cheap stuff. Candles, candle holders, candy dishes, floating candles, vases, ect. Hope all of this helps.

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