(Closed) I don’t know how we are going to afford our wedding.

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 17
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1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@SweetRose2011: Ugh that is not stress that anybody wants to deal with. While I don’t like the idea of paying for a wedding on credit if you are in a bind that might not be too horrible if you know you can pay it off shortly after. Or if you just want the card just in case things get too tight. I started with CapitalOne as my first card. I wouldn’t reccomend starting with a store card like a PP said because they generally require you to have a pre-existing credit card account through a visa or mastercard company.

Post # 18
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1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh and don’t sweat about the honeymoon. I know it’s nice to take it right after the wedding, but so many people delay their honeymoons nowadays. We have to delay ours a little and I don’t mind since it will give me time to do my thank you notes and get my name changed.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@SweetRose2011: *Hugs* I really dont know what you can do, but the bees have given you some great ideas.

Let me know if I can help with any crafty things (veil, jewelry, etc) I’ll try my best for ya (consider them a gift) 😉

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I completely understand your situation. Its hard and makes you sad because you’re trying so hard while other, not all, but some have parents helping them.

Our wedding will be $5000 and no higher. We have cut at every place we could. We are not having a florist. My bouquet will lavender flowers which if you go to your local florist/nursery you can get really cheap. Give costco a chance if there is one in your area. Our center pieces will be dried wild native flowers in pebble/sand. We’re DYI all the way. DYI is the key like other PP have mentioned. Is there anyone’s backyard you can have the ceremony at? And I totally get why you booked a DJ, they’re pretty important and iPod weddings can go wrong if not done correctly. Oh and I’m making my own cupcakes, big money saver. Check out Martha Stuart’s website she has so much info.

If you don’t have to get a credit card don’t, especially not from retail places. Their apr is ridiculous. Go through your bank first. Especially if you’re a student they’ll start your credit life in the right path, from what I understand. Good luck and keep us posted!

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If it makes you feel any better we aren’t having a honeymoon either. We are planning on having one on our 1st anniversary. And by the time we are married we will have been engaged 3 years– the ONLY reason is because of money. You are not alone. <huggles>

Post # 22
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1991 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@SweetRose2011: For a honeymoon on the cheap, you may want to look into all of the travel deals that many of the discount sites such as Groupon, Living Social, Half Off Depot, etc., have.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Whenever I read things like this I really wonder why people don’t just elope.

If it were going to take all of the money we have saved to just have our wedding, & then actually worry if we had enough, I would just say “screw it, we are going on a honeymoon and getting married destination/eloping style”.

It’s just not worth all that hassle & money IMO..

But I guess some people find it much more important than I do.. I wish you the best of luck & I hope your day is wonderful!

Post # 24
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2390 posts
Buzzing bee

I hope things get better for you!

Post # 25
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2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

To save money we are DIYing our centerpieces and using cheap flowers for our bouquets. Also, we are nixing the rehearsal dinner. We have both our families coming in from Out of Town and traditionally you are supposed to invite Out of Town guests to the rehearsal dinner. We def cannot afford that. Instead of picking and choosing who to invite we decided to just scrap the rehearsal dinner so we wouldn’t hurt anyones feelings. Also, we are doing our own invites and not having programs.

Post # 26
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My husband and I paid cash for our wedding and unfortunately a honeymoon was not in the cards right after the wedding (1. the funds and 2. time wise as he is in the military). I have seen quite a few people take a delayed honeymoon, some even a year later. Thats actually what we are doing…..european honeymoon 13 months after the wedding. For me being debt free is more important than taking a honeymoon right after the wedding.

Post # 27
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26 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

And also we didn’t have huge bachelor/bachelorette bashes. We ended up going out with our friends and halfway through the night we ended up at the same bar and everyone had a great time together! Nothing fancy, but a great night none the less

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I just wanted to say I’m in the same boat 🙁 My Fiance and I are both very broke graduate students and our wedding has gone from a simple elopement to an outdoor wedding and reception that crossed over the $4000 mark last night.

What is really important to us is the honeymoon and that is what we have been struggling to set money aside for. But as this wedding is getting bigger and bigger (mostly due to parental involvement), I think our honeymoon is becoming less and less likely. It has actually been really depressing me the last few days because I don’t know how we are going to come up with this kind of money before next spring. At least know you aren’t alone!

 

Post # 29
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

We are in a simalar position with the same date. I think you are making good efforts. Go through your statement from your bank.. You never realize how much money you spend on things you dont NEED that was our wake up call when we added all of those costs. We have about 1200 more dollars to come up with before the day… I will keep my fingers crossed for you!!! 🙂

Post # 30
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677 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@SweetRose2011:

 

I know how you feel, we had to postpone our wedding more than once because we didnt have the funds, and we gave up the honeymoon, I dont know when we will get to take it but it was more important to me that we get married. I also (after 2 years of planning) became an expert on saving money and getting great deals on things (wedding dress was bought for $50 five sizes too big and we payed $100 to alter it, my centerpieces and decorations came from the amazingly affordable LunaBazaar, and I ordered a keg and 12 bottles of wine and had that available all night instead of an open bar) I wrote down what was the most important to me (my dj, my cake, the venue) and scrimped on everything else, I barely bought any flowers and got married in a garden instead, bridesmaids got 3 blooms. I was lucky to have my venue which saved me the most, but I also knew I had to sacrifice and give up things, but at the end of the day I married the man of my dreams and thats the important thing. everything else is just fluff.

Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’ve cut a ton out of our budget and the honeymoon wa the first thing to go. Instead we are going to plan on taking it the following year. It seems lika a lot of people postpone the moon’. Also, you may want to consider going to diy route. Do you have any friends or relatives that would be interested in helping you with that? There is seriously so much stuff you can do yourself and its absurd how much the simple stuff is marked up by vendors. Poke around the diy forum and see what other people are doing. 

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