(Closed) We can’t afford this!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think men have a hard time understanding all of the other little details that go into a wedding. That’s where everything adds up. I would show him a budget with a legitimate breakdown and maybe even examples of where you got your pricing. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Maybe bees can help a little. Where in ontario are you from there are some good deals around but ya 12 000$ sounds about right (15 000$ is what we’re coming in at but had I known before we could have done something for less).

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Take a break and try to calm down a bit 🙂  Make a list of MUST haves and WANTS.  Then total up the MUST haves and see where you are at.

You can save a lot of money by doing a buffet dinner, making your own centerpieces, choosing a different style reception venue, etc.

If he really wants a party, why not have the reception at like a fire house or American Legion?  The cost is very low and you can spend your money on food, decor, and a dj!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Fire hall, and legions are a great idea. Have you looked at local restaurants they quite often will have rooms or will even close for you (we had a restaurant in Ottawa close for us and we just paid for appetizers and the bar was open for our guests for our engagement party). Ask people who work in offices where they have gone for staff Christmas parties as those place may accommodate for 60 people.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I know mill street brewery has an amazing location I Ottawa and take reservations for Sundays. Maybe there Toronto location is similar.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d try to stay out of Toronto if you can…..I’ve found that not only are the venues more expensive, but photos, flowers, even my DRESS was more expensive here than in London. If you are really set on the GTA i’d look at heading out of downtown, and out into the burbs….

Post # 12
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Helper bee

@future: I’m in Southwestern Ontario too (london) and have found golf courses on city limits to be the cheapest. We picked Pine Knot in Dorchester and the most expensive meal was $36 after tax, compared to 86-109 we were quoted at other places. We’re only spending $12k too and have managed to stay under budget so far, I’ve DIYed everything possible, not because I really needed to but because I enjoy it, and I’ve found that’s really helped. Where exactly are you? I have friends in Hamilton, Burlington, Toronto, Cambridge.. I can ask around for you and see if anyone knows of anywhere that would be better. Try looking off the beaten path too, like small restaurants or I’ve heard of breweries or art galleries being decently priced. Good luck!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@KarenA:  Ooooh, Pine Knot is so nice!

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

Can you meet in the middle- elope and then have a more casual BBQ/cookout party in a park or at home or community hall once you return?

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d sit down with your combined salary and monthly must haves (rent, utilities, food, gas, etc.) then you should be able to get an estimate of how much you can save. Multiply this by 10 months and you have what you can save for your wedding. If this is less that your wedding vision you can elope, have a cheaper wedding, or set a later date. Maybe putting real numbers to it will help your fiance.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

OH!!!!! I can help!!! I’m in the GTA. We just went from a 25 thousand dollar mess to something in the 8 thousand dollar range for 85 people. First, consider a Friday or Sunday wedding. Also (this is what we are doing) perhaps an evening ceremony followed by a cocktail reception with dancing instead of a sit down dinner, easy to do with 60 people. Or a late/noonish morning ceremony and  brunch/finger foods reception

My BFF got married at The Old Mill in Toronto. It was gorgeous, the chapel accomodates 60 ppl or more and the food was fantastic. They have gardens for photos and various sized rooms to suit your needs. Everything in one place eliminates transportation costs. The BFFs wedding cost her 5 grand, including flowers (which they do at a discount) for a full sit down dinner.

Keep your bridal party small, that cuts huge costs. Consider cupcakes and a cutting cake for about half the cost of a huge traditional cake. There are lots of ways to cut costs and have a lovely wedding, even in costly Ontario.

I can also offer help for Durham Region prices

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