- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Me and my FH -to-be have talked about getting married lots before, and we said we wanted a small wedding. I never realized until now that we are actually engaged and planning the wedding, that we have own own very different meanings of that. Neither of us are religious, but we are spirtual, so i knew i wanted an outdoor/nature inspired wedding. He said the same, not inside a church. Months ago we went to go look at some venues with my parents here close to home, and found this little place up in the mountains that’s rustic, quiet, small, tons of trees and a few ponds right on the location. We were sold. But now he says he doesn’t want to spend alot of money and wants to get married in vegas…whther that’s eloping or getting married in one of the hotels chapels. He wants is small-10 people small!!! I understand he’s shy, doesn’t like attention on him, and gets anxiety. I’m shy too but am more gutsy and will brave on and smile and not let me shyness hold me back from things or putting myself out there. Regardless on the location, there will be more than 10 people invited (i tallied them up and it’s around 65-75), because this day is special to me, i want to remember it and i want the people who have been part of our life to be there, or at least invited. I really want a wedding here near home because it feels “real” to me. i’ll get to be in a wedding dress the entire day, there will be an outdoor ceremony, there will be a reception with the theme i like (fall/pumpkins/rustic), and it will be a party for our friends and family to come to and celebrate with us. I know Vegas eloping/hotel chapel would be cheaper. My best friend just had her’s there in July. It was fun, but i knew that was not what I would want-The pictures of the couple were on the strip and out in the city (I like nature and want nature backdrops not the streets), there was a buffett dinner inside the hotel which felt weird because everyone although we were in a little room for just our party, it just felt distant from each other and not a wedding dinner. Plus after dinner everyone just went their own way, we stuck with the bride but I don’t want that at mine. There’s no cake and wedding dancing either. I want my wedding day to be an event for me…from getting ready in the morning with the girls, to the ceremony and to the reception with the same people that showed up to the ceremont. I know Vegas is cheaper, and i think for him the real reason is that he doesn’t want a lot of people there and he doesn’t want to do something that lasts a few hours with people. It sucks, i’m diappointed that my wedding day isn’t going to be what I thought it was. i don’t feel excited about it anymore and that makes me sad. he told me that most guys aren’t excited about the wedding and all the details, but i wish he looked forward to it and was excited rather than wanting to get married next weekend and making me feel like he wants to get over it. Does anyone have any advice on this?