(Closed) We can’t make a decision and it’s ruining us

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I say you have to do what you want what you think will make you the happiest.. you dont want to put yourself in a super financial burden or cause too much stress. You can still invite some people if you elope.. the ones that really want to come could maybe come to that?  Or if you really think you will be upset without the “real” wedding explain to the people that backed out of helping financially that you are going to have to call it off because you cant afford it and maybe they will step up.. sometimes people dont realize the burden they are putting on others.

Post # 5
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Lol tell me about it.. I am super excited about my wedding.. but the money stresses me out..and then finding time to get everything done stresses me out.. I go from super happy and excited to nausious in a matter of minutes lol. it will all work out. When I cant decide on something I try to ask myself if I HAD to decide right now..right this very second no turning back 3,2,1 GO..and whatever my answer is thats it.. because you’ll blurt out what you really want subconsciously.. lol

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MadameLady: ELOPE! if later on you feel you want a “real” wedding you can always have a small reception or a vow renewal, right now it’s about you feeling good for you. Everyone will understand and if they don’t, well.. it’s not their wedding.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Good choice! Honestly.. if I had to do it all over again Id do a destination wedding.. off to the islands Id go.. but Unfortunately Id be out way too much money to change it now lol. But Im sure Ill love my wedding.. I just like the idea of being able to book a hotel/honeymoon/wedding combo and then just SHOW UP.. seriously the less stress the better lol.  And you can have a BBQ party when you get back!

Post # 10
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193 posts
Blushing bee

I would vote elope too. Or my friends were in a very tight financial situation. So they got married in the local gardens (no charge), had a dinner at na nice local restaurant (chinese I think) which the guests paid for (it was only about $20 per head for a main meal) and then the bridesmaid went to the tables and asked if anyone would want to ‘donate’ towards your wedding night at a hotel. They got plenty to pay for a weekend at the hotel and dinners/breakfasts. They loved it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MadameLady: I am going through a similar situation and actually posted about this today. Fiance and I finally made a decision that it’s best just for us two to get away, get married, and enjoy ourselves.  It’s the marriage that’s important, not the wedding.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I vote for elope too! I agree with @Coffee cup: that you can always have a party or a “real” wedding later. 

I’m glad you called your brother and he was supportive. you mentioned that your Future Brother-In-Law also seemed pretty exicted – begging for time off from his boss? maybe your Fiance should call him too, so he won’t feel let down. 

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