(Closed) We did everything backwards, anyone else totally unconventional??

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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5183 posts
Bee Keeper

@AirForceWife78: lol i am in your boat. Fiance and I got married at a courthouse for him to get extra $$ in housing.. then we set a real date.. then he proposed… and soon we will have our wedding lol. 

Post # 6
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2892 posts
Sugar bee

Weird over here too. Decided we were basically engaged last year. Picked a date. Told family. Started planning. 4 months later, we’re still planning and still waiting on the ring as it just got finished this month. At this point, the ring felt like a social technicality. We figured, why should everything go on hold just because we didn’t have a ring in our hands? (Plus, we’d spent 7 months trying to get one already.) I like that it’s unconventional. Sometimes, it just fits. Life doesn’t stop just because you don’t have a piece of jewelry. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We were in the same situation!

We decided to get married in July (before we had a ring), started the custom design process (because I’m picky picky picky!), got married at the courthouse, recieved the ring, officially announced engagement (even though we were already married!), then started planning a ceremony (with eight weeks to plan).

My husband is military as well, and it just doesn’t make sense to wait a year to be legally married with all of the benefits that the military provides married couples!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

@AirForceWife78:  Not sure. But I definitely wasn’t there for the town meeting. ๐Ÿ™‚ I think customs do have a purpose in that they can help people to not get ahead of themselves and help society identify an accepted path for relationship growth. But I don’t think it’s a black and white set of rules. At the end of the day you have to do what’s best for the both of you and what feels right. Life is so crazy you can rarely live by a single set of rules. Espeically when you’re in a situation like yours. Sometimes you have to improvise. ๐Ÿ™‚ But I’m right there with you. Question or no question, ring or no ring, we felt engaged. The rest are technicalities. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

me too!!! we got married dec 1/11 and then he proposed in jan/12. then we are having our ceremony/reception on Dec 1/12 – exactly a year after our “real” date.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Ha! Nothing wrong with that. Sounds like you have it all planned out. Be sure to post the proposal when it happens!

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