- 5 years ago
We are 40 year olds. This in his first marriage, not mine. I am pregnant (post engagement and on purpose!) We are getting married with 30 of our closest friends in the most non-wedding marriage, semi-elopement that I could manage. We’ve rented a semi-private area at a swanky hotel bar, will dance to a live band, and, at set break spend about 3 minutes getting married. Then dance some more. I didn’t invite any family. My fiance didn’t invite any family either.
Now we’re a week before the wedding and his friends and he are posting on Facebook about the wedding. Our families are on Facebook. Not that I expected to keep it a secret, but I was hoping to underplay it and keep it off Facebook to spare our families feelings.
Until now, I’ve been vague about it with them saying we’re eloping with some friends. But now that they’ve shared some of the details on FB, one of my sister started asking some pointed questions and I had to tell her. She understands (both of us have complicated family dynamics), but still, I don’t want to rub it in their faces.
He is almost completely estranged from his family (he was raised by his grandparents who are deceased). So I don’t think it has the same import for his family to not be invited.
My fiance is super excited and very Facebook posty. This is his first marriage and he wants to shout it from the mountain tops. Which I understand, but there’s got to be a middle ground.