Post # 1
I wanted to send Save-The-Date Cards, really I did. I thought it would get done so much sooner, but it didn’t. For some reason it didn’t occur to me that our engagment photos wouldn’t be taken in time, let alone be ready! And I stubbornly wanted those photos in it, darnit.
So the STD’s passed under the radar. Oh well. Sigh.
I am probably going to send our invites out a bit early. Our wedding is on March 1st, I was originally going to send the invites mid-December, but am wondering if I should do it a bit sooner if we don’t have Save-The-Date Cards. Early December? Maybe even November?
I am a little concerned because there seems to be much confusion over our wedding date with our guests (it had to change 6 months ago and that caused some minor chaos)
Regardless of when I send it out, I’m going to ask for RSVP’s by early Feb (Feb 7th?), unless anyone thinks I should ask for them sooner.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@CakeyP: No more than 6-8 weeks before the RSVP due date. If you send them too early you chance more people losing the invitation or forgetting to RSVP.
Post # 4
I would not send them until January. People are too busy at Christmas, so you likely won’t get much of an early response rate, and there is a far greater chance that the invites will get lost in the holiday shuffle.
Let your out of town guests know by word of mouth, or in your christmas cards, when your wedding is. Chances are everyone you know locally already knows the date.
We sent our invites 5 weeks before the wedding. Our attendance rate was very good, and there were very few RSVPs I had to chase down. We didn’t do Save-The-Date Cards, but considering everyone we invited was friends and family, they already knew when our wedding was anyway.
Post # 5
I think 6-8 weeks is usually plenty of time for people to plan if most of the guests live in the area.
Post # 6
@CakeyP: I didnt send an STD either but I believe you are not supposed to send them out more than 6-8 weeks prior anyhow.
Post # 7
You should send your invitations 6-8 weeks before your wedding, and no sooner. You do still have time to do Save-The-Date Cards if you want, since they really only need to be sent 4-6 months ahead of time.
Post # 8
I would send them in January. If you send them too early people will lose them &/or forget them. I’m getting married in April & I’m not sending invites out until end of Feb. I really hope my advice is useful. I also didn’t send std’s. So no worries about them either.
Post # 9
OK, good to hear that sending them after the holidays would be OK – is it that obvious that’s my main concern? 🙂
@abbie017: I’d love to send STD’s still if I can manage it. You think 4 months isn’t too late? (probably will go out next month if we can still do them)
Post # 10
@CakeyP: I’m 99% sure I’ve read somewhere that 4-6 months is a good timeline. Depending on where you get them done (and if you already have the photos), you can get them really quickly. Wedding Paper Divas has a ridiculously fast turnaround time, and great quality!
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
You can send an email or Facebook STD now and then the invite as normal if your worried people won’t be able to fix there schedules
Post # 12
@CakeyP: Why not just mention it in your Xmas cards? I seriously think Save-The-Date Cards are a massive waste of money. Postage, printing, the effort in addressing, not to mention they remove any and all flexibility you have with your guest list. If you send a STD, you are obliged to send and invite. They are a recipe for drama, IMO.
Everyone likes to get christmas cards, and you can kill 2 birds with one stone!
Post # 13
@CakeyP: I’d send the STD’s NOW and then two months before the wedding send the invitations!
Post # 14
We sent ours out a little earlier than we should have and had to chase down a bunch of people. A lot of people simply forgot, some people said they wouldn’t know until closer to due to babysitter etc and one person just plain lost it.
I agree with PP … send your invitations out first week of January.
Post # 15
If your wedding isn’t until March, November or December is much too early to send out invitations. Send them out early January and ask for RSVPs the first week of February. Be prepared to call some guests if they have not responded because it happens all the time.
For my vow renewal, I am sending out my invitations the last week of July and asking for RSVPs the month before our celebration.
Post # 16
You can send save the dates out within a month or so (because that’s not too late and it sounds like ppl need to get save the dates due to date change) and then send invites out in early January.