Post # 1
Fiance and I have decided to take a couple dance lessons so we are a bit more comfortable on the floor for the first dance. It starts this Friday and we were told to bring our music. We can’t decide between two songs (we can bring both, but we need to choose soon).
He very adamently wants Tyrone Wells, Running Around In My Dreams
and I very adamently want Amos Lee, Flower
Rationale: I feel like his song choice really focus on his love for me, not our love. I feel like Amos Lee is more about our love. They are both in first person, but Amos Lee’s just doesn’t feel like it’s an I, I, I, Me, Me, Me song.
We are getting close to just rock-paper-scissoring it, but I thought I’d see if the bees would weigh in. What are your thoughts?
Note: We do not have a song that is ‘ours’, we never have (that’s why this is hard!)
Post # 3
Anyone else? What did you vote for and why?
Also, should we just scratch our ideas and start over to find something in the middle?
Post # 4
I’m with you by a smidge. But what I found funny was that the two songs are so extremely similar.
Post # 5
What if you had one for a first dance song and one as your alternative entrance song…for the ceremony?
Post # 6
Marriage is about compromise! My husband picked our song. Was I crazy about it? No, but he said it was “perfect” for us and it made me happy that he actually cared about it! Unless you’re going to be super upset, just let him use his song, because like geekspice said–the songs are quite similar!
Post # 7
Hmmm… I didn’t vote because I’m wondering if he’s had any strong opinions about other aspects of the wedding. Most guys aren’t interested in the wedding details so when they do have one that they are adament about, I think it’s usually best to let the guy have his way (so long as it’s reasonable). However, if you’ve been compromising so he can have a lot of what he wants, then I think you should pick the song.
Post # 8
Hmm…I can’t hear the similarities, but maybe it’s just my stubborness blocking the sound 🙂
Maybe because Amos Lee’s only references ‘her’ twice, and Tyrone Wells references her, she, girl several times, maybe that is why it feels more one sided to me (whereas Amos Lee, we could be saying to each other).
We both typically compromise very well, this just seems to be something we are both very adament about. (I’ve compromised a lot so far too 🙂 He has a super hero on half our wedding cake, our drink menu is super heroes, and now he wants to name our candy dishes super hero, etc)
Post # 9
@RunsWithBears: It’s been so-so. He picked 80% of our food choices, his own clothes, grooms gifts, we agreed on DJ, photographer. He compromised on videographer.
He was very adament about wanting a cake to cut into, and I was not interested so he got that. We have both compromised on things.
In the end, I think I might, might, end up giving in, it just really doesn’t feel like a first dance song, but thinking about it, he seems only slightly more adament than me like, 99% vs 98.9%
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I think either is fine, but I just wanted to comment that they are both so SLOW, and the second is even slower than the first. I don’t know what you’re expecting them to teach you, but they’ll probably show you a rumba. I would encourage you to either pick something different that’s a touch faster, or speed his song up.
The PP had a good point that if he hasn’t had many opinions over the course of planning, you should give him this one. No one is really going to be sitting there thinking “well, this song is more about one person loving the other than mutual love.”
ETA just saw your update- in that case, I vote work together to pick a different song. Any dance you do to a song that slow will probably bore the two of you to death halfway though if you’re hoping to do any choreography.
Post # 11
i think i like your song the best, but mainly because i like the singer better. haha
Post # 12
What’s wrong with rock-paper-scissors??
Post # 13
@kmarie719: We also didn’t have “a song” and it was soooo hard to find a song we both liked, but I really wanted us to both like/love the song we had (and one thing I wanted was a neutral song like what you want). Neither of us had strong opinions otherwise so we just kept finding songs until we both loved one and then stopped looking lol. The song we picked has both a male and female singing it together so it works for us.
I like both, never heard either before.
I like the sound of his better but I agree with your song sounding more from both of you. I would say either find a new song, or bring them both and see what the dance instructor says about them, like which would be easier to dance to or whatever. Hope that helps…
Post # 14
LOL. I had the same dilemma with my Fiance. He picked an obscure Tim McGraw song that changes rhythm a couple of times. Its a pain to dance to and it’s not really a first dance song. But I gave in because the only input he has had is one cake flavor, the color of his suit and that. So I wanted it to feel like his wedding too. It sounds like you guys are about 50/50 on decisions so maybe think about a different song that you can both agree on.
Post # 15
@MeiFrancis: They are a tad slow, but we aren’t looking for it to be choreographed. We are looking to just become more comfortable dancing, so he can throw in a twirl here, a spin there, instead of the middle school sway for three minutes. I want to be able to ad-lib the dance a bit-if that makes sense?
I really would have preferred Ray LaMontagne’s Best Thing, but he refuses to have Ray LaMontagne as our first dance song, because we saw him perform and it was an awful, awful performance and Fiance decided he detests him lol. Oye.
FI’s other choice was Jason Mraz Woman I Love, also slow, and exceptionally ‘one-sided’
Maybe we need to go back to the drawing board…