Post # 1
A small problem – we don’t drink!! It’s not for religious reasons or anything, just prefrence. We’ll have a highball now and again, but neither of us drink beer or wine so we don’t really care if it’s served at our wedding.
What would you bees suggest doing?
Post # 3
Well, in our case (we don’t drink either for the same reason) we opted to have beer and wine at our wedding since we knew our guests would probably enjoy that.
As a side note, we mentioned that we weren’t too keen on paying for it since we don’t drink and my Mom chimed in to say she’d be willing to pick up the tab for the booze (about $12 a person). Maybe you have a relative that would be willing to help out with it?
Post # 4
I would have it the way that makes you feel most comfortable. I am having beer and wine but no hard alcohol as I do not feel comfortable with it making people want to party more. We are also have small wine glasses so people will have to make continual trips to the bar to get really drunk!
Post # 5
Yes, and maybe if other people’s drinking bothers you, then perhaps you might want to go for more of an afternoon affair.
Post # 6
Ya I suppose it wouldn’t be such a big deal because we are having a small wedding with about 40 guests. It’s not so much the money, just the fact that we don’t really care to have it there, but you’re right, the guests will probably be looking for it!!!
Post # 7
I am a drinker, so I know that if I went to a wedding without alcohol, I would be disappointed. However, I think that if you’re not interested in having it and the people you love know that’s the case, then you shouldn’t feel obligated to serve it. I think it’s up to you to decide if you want to serve it and whether you want an open bar or a cash bar or partially open bar.
I do think that most people expect booze at weddings, so if it’s not there, or if it’s a cash bar, you should communicate it to be people on your wedding website. I never show up to weddings with cash, so if I went to a cash bar, I’d appreciate being notified.
Post # 8
I think wine / and or beer should still be served. If you had a different reason (religious, etc) then it would be ok to insist on a dry wedding, but the reception is supossed to be for the guests to enjoy as well.
Post # 9
I agree with bridegrl. If you have some sort of ethical or religious objection to alcohol, then no, you should absolutely not worrying about serving it. But since it’s just something you don’t really care for and but have no qualms with, I think you should think about your guests and at least have some basics. A lot of people feel like a drink or two really enhances a meal and a night of celebrating!
Post # 10
SO and I don’t drink either. We still plan to have beer and wine served. For us though, we are just going to drink sparkling grape juice. I know it sounds immature, but we both love that stuff!
Post # 11
We are not serving alcohol at our reception…it is a personal preference, and also my dad said he would not pay for my wedding at all if we had alcohol there…Most of our friends are drinkers, so I dont really know how they are going to react to no alcohol, but I know that the bridal party is going to have drinks in the limo and we are stopping by a bar or two before the reception to get some shots…my family doesnt drink at all so it never really was an option to have it…but I think you should do what you think is best! The way I see it is, if my friends or Fiance friends leave our reception because we dont have alcohol, then maybe they didnt really care about us in the first place…I know I can still have fun without alcohol…
Post # 12
We don’t drink much either but we still had alcohol at the wedding for people that wanted it. I think people really expect there to be something.
Post # 13
We are not having alcohol at our wedding, either…mostly because of some bad memories surrounding my childhood. Neither my Fiance or I drink, and we’re having a tiny wedding in the afternoon, so I don’t think it would be expected.
I can’t imagine, as a guest, being upset that there was no alcohol served even if I was a drinker. I can’t imagine being upset that someone had chosen to have their wedding reception in a way that didn’t necessarily fit my taste (whether that means they serve dinner or not, or choose not to have dancing, etc.), at all. Maybe surprised, but that would be the extent of it.
I’m sure if your friends and family know you don’t drink, they won’t be upset if you choose not to serve alcohol. Maybe surprised, because it’s not “traditional”, but how could they really be upset at you (on your special day) for something so trivial?
Post # 14
Neither of us drink, and we will be having a dry wedding. It’s a main philiosophy of ours that fun doesn’t need to involve drugs or alcohol, so I feel like it would be really wrong to have a big party and pay for a ton of booze so everyone can “have a good time”.
Post # 15
Also, my aunts are all crazy when they are drunk, so not serving booze will eliminate that major anxiety for me.
And plenty of vegans are having vegan weddings these days, so why can’t non-drinkers have booze-free weddings?
Post # 16
we dont drink either (just because we dont…no specific reason) and we are paying for a bartender to be there and bring alcohol but it is strictly a cash bar. if they want a drink they will have to pay for it. you do not need alcohol to celebrate or have a good time. we are putting our money toward clean fun. music, games, great food, desert, ect. we dont want our celebration to revolve around something that means nothing to us…..
good luck. just do what you feel is right 😀