Post # 1
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Helper bee
got a call from my Fiance today letting me know-almost in tears- that his vacation that was previously approved has been switched and now we only have two days after our wedding-which will be out of state- to get him back to work…i’m seriousy numb…
background info-
We just moved 2000 miles from our home state for a pharmacy position with witch my Fiance is stellar at. He has totally turned this pharm around.. its stats this time last year were literally in the gutter and his has sent this store into A++ mode- he is the hardest worker and we have shared our bouts of flexiblity with the company… we have been through 2 firings of former pharmacists one a few months ago due to poor proformance which was long over due and the second only 4 days ago due the the former pharm stealing controlled drugs under the counter- my Fiance is the PIC-pharmacist in charge- which means he is the big name on anything that leaves or enters the pharmacy- a role we knew could be sketchy with the amount of strugle this pharmcy has been dealing with but we never thought his co worker would be dupeing him under the counter like this… guess who got written up because the OTHER PHARM was stealing meds- It would make more sense if my Fiance was even there on the days the other pharm was stealing buuuuuuttttt they switched the pharm hours to 12 hour days so the two NEVER saw eachother…
we are heart broken… this year has been the most stressful and adventurous of our lives together and we keep suprising ourselves on how patient we can be together but now no honeymoon after all this??? All i want to do is take his mind and heart away from that counter for a week- be with my husband- but now we can’t have that….
we should win a patience award….
Post # 3
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Helper bee
I’m so sorry! You two DO deserve a patience award!
Can he take any time off in the months after the wedding so that the two of you can go somewhere?
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
My daughter got married last Feb and she and her husband had similar issues with time off. They got married on a Saturday in Miami where they live. They spent their wedding night at a very nice hotel and then spent the day all alone lounging on the beach.
Their honeymoon was in May and they went to Napa Valley and San Francisco. She was a little disappointed they couldn’t have a honeymoon right after the wedding but she actually preferred the break in between. She said it was much more fun planning a honeymoon without the stress of also planing a wedding.
I think you and your new husband should take those 2 days after the wedding and stay at a nice hotel, order room service, turn off the cell phones, etc. You don’t have to go far away to be far away from the stress of your jobs. Plan a nice honeymoon later.
I’m sorry this is happening to you, but don’t let the situation ruin the happiest time in your life.
Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Sorry to hear, that’s too bad! I honestly don’t know anyone who was able to go on a honeymoon, either because of money or because they couldn’t get the time off. It would be nice if it was a given when you get married, but the way things are these days, it’s not always realistic.
Try not to let this ruin your experience, and definitely plan for the next opportunity you have to take a nice long vacation together.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
you guys are too sweet- we def see the up sides to this!
He doesnt have any vaca time avalible after the wedding until next year but we plan to make a big trip out of it next year for sure.
having a few days together afterwards is all we can do so we plan on making them count!
Post # 7
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Newbee
Take a mini-moon for a couple of days just to relax! Really, you should just drive to a local attraction and if there isn’t one, just pick a direct and drive two hours to the nicest hotel. Get massages and room service and bring some nice “evening wear” ;). You’ll come back feeling like a million bucks! The point of a honeymoon is really just to have some quality time to enjoy each other anyways. It doesn’t matter if you take a big trip or not. You can always plan a big getaway for an anniversary when you can get the time.
Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
We have a similar scenario – Fiance is still in his first 90 days at his new job and can’t ask for the time off until much closer to the wedding (his 90 days is up in Feb), giving us very little time to actually plan a honeymoon assuming it would be approved. So we’ve decided to wait until this summer to do our big honeymoon. We’re just going to go to a nice local hotel for a few nights since he can ask for 1-2 days off during the 90 days, so he’s asked for the Monday and Tuesday post-wedding. Then we’re going to work on planning our BIG honeymoon trip for sometime this summer. 🙂
It’s best to just look at the positives in these cases I think, so in my mind I’m separating the wedding/mini-moon from the honeymoon and thinking of the honeymoon as something NEW to plan and look forward to. 🙂 It’s kind of nice. I imagine I’ll be a lot less stressed.
Post # 9
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Newbee
I know how you feel. We are not going to even try for a honeymoon because this year is so busy at his job (He’s a general contractor and travels a lot). I figure we’ll just have a nice vacation when we can and pretend like it doesn’t matter.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
we have found it ladies! we have found the litte nook we entend to escape to for two days- its a little spa/resort tucked away in wine country- just a couple hours down the road from where we live… we will be booking tomorrow! I’ll update with pics!
