Post # 1
I’ve had my own place for a little over 3 years now, and I’ve been living with Fiance for almost two years. We have plates. We have bedding. We have towels and knives and silverware and a blender and a kitchenaid mixer. I feel awkward that we’re supposed to be telling our friends and relatives “buy me this!”, but I’ve already got people asking me where we’re registered and what we’ve registered for. The problem is that we don’t need a lot of things. Sure, we could use a bread knife and a mandoline slicer. Maybe some new sheets. But not really enough to fill up an entire registry. So I’m wondering which of these are more “acceptable”. I understand that it’s kind of subjective, and that a lot of people will choose to give us cash, but I also know that a lot of them will want to buy things for us.
-Furniture on registry. We could use a new coffee table and some floor lamps. Maybe a couple of bookshelves. Obviously, these would be our “big ticket” items; instead of a kitchenaid mixer, we could use a little lounge chair. I guess electronics would go in this category too. A digital camera? A bluray player? That feels too “gimme gimme” to me, though.
-Honeymoon registry. I know this is WAY controversial on here, but a cousin of mine did one two years ago, and it seemed to go over well. We’re honeymooning in-country, so it would mostly be nice dinners, tickets to shows, maybe room upgrades.
-“Experience” registry. Rather than buying THINGS, we’d love it if people would buy us EXPERIENCES. A horseback tour of the local battlefields. Membership to a museum. Tickets to a concert or a musical. Pottery classes, adult non-credit courses at the community college, dinner in the city.
Post # 3
On an amazon registry, you can link up things like museums and zoos for memberships, but you can put a few cheap things and some big ticket items on there, too. Our guests have LOVED our amazon registry (and returns are super easy!).
I think if you decide on a honeymon registry, it’s nice to include a more traditional registry for guests that aren’t fond of the honeymoon regsitry idea.
I would also encourage letting guests know a few of your favorite charities so that they have that option.
Post # 4
We decided to do a honeymoon registry plus a very small traditional one at BBB. The amazaon one sounds cool though.
Post # 5
You could not register at all.
Really. That’s what we’re doing. That way people can give you meaningful gifts that they put some thought into, or they can give you cash/gift cards, or they can not feel obligated to give anything at all, if times are tough. On our wedsite, we wrote, “The best gifts that we could hope for are your love, good wishes, and company. No others are necessary.” I’ve already had friends tell me how much they like and appreciate this.
Post # 6
@mightywombat: On our wedsite, we wrote, “The best gifts that we could hope for are your love, good wishes, and company. No others are necessary.”
That goes over very well!
Post # 7
Do you have anything you want to upgrade that you already have?
If you don’t have high-quality knives (Shun, Wustof, etc.) I strongly suggest those.
Post # 8
Oh, that’s so sweet!! Thank you!
I have to be honest. We did take a lot of flack (way more than I was expecting) for not registering. But it was the right decision for us.
Post # 9
I think all of these options are fine. We received furniture and electronics from our registry (though the people who bought us electronics were our friends and younger family; older family went for more traditional items). As long as you have a variety of options, I think you’ll be fine; even if people aren’t into a honeymoon registry, they might like to get you a new coffee table, and vice versa.
Post # 10
honneymoon registry is the practical way to go – you dont want uncessary experience and be spending time doing various activitiies for the rest of the year. =)
@ Sasha2011 (message) and @mightywombat: On our wedsite, we wrote, “The best gifts that we could hope for are your love, good wishes, and company. No others are necessary.”
I wrote the same thing and more than a dozen guests came empty handed, literally. No card, no wine, no cookies, nada. People will take your comments literally!
Post # 11
You could do an Amazon registry. Get the “universal wishlist button” and you can pretty much put anything you can think of on the list. I’ve got a lot of Ikea furniture on mine, because that’s what we really need. I’m sure you can also put memberships to national parks on it, and I bet your guests will think that’s a really fun gift to give.
Post # 12
That’s totally ok with us!! We really mean it. 🙂
Post # 13
@mightywombat – love it, great idea! i am getting a TON of flack from one friend who actually said “you can put those presents in storage and im sure you can hire movers someday”.
Post # 14
Perhaps simply say ‘No presents please. Your presence is enough’. I personally would prefer to see that then to be asked to specifically get someone an adventure/experience gift.
Post # 15
There is even a way to have people send $ to a bank for a down payment on a house. Check it out.
I think it’s OK to register for honeymoons. But, you should find a neighborhood travel agent who takes 100% of the checks and puts it towards your honeymoon and doesn’t take a 20% like some of the places that advertise this service. Our travel agent was very happy to collect the checks, tell us how much, and we wrote the thank you for the specific gift. That way if there was a discrepancy the guest could call us back and say, “Hey, we gave $100.00 not $10.00”.
Post # 16
I think any of the above sound fine. You can register for electronics and small furniture items at BB&B and Target. I’ve never been exposed to honeymoon or experience registries, but they sound really awesome!