Post # 17
My suggestion, being someone who dislikes giving cash (in any form, including gift certificates, including honeyfund) is that you give some people the option to purchase something tangible. So electronics and furniture fall into that category and are fine. Plus, if you choose a place with a decent return policy, you can also return any “little” things and exchange for a sofa or whatever you do need. I would do this in addition to honeyfund and the rest of it and you can make the “tangible gifts” registry small so that it’s obvious that your emphasis is on experiences, cash or whatnot and those who don’t have a problem with it will eschew the things and contribute to the cash funds.
I’m not the be-all-end-all of what’s appropriate or not on a registry and I’m in the minority with my feelings on honeyfund etc. I don’t want to start a debate about that–my point is that I also know I’m not the only person out there who is turned off by giving cash and cash-type gifts and I would bet that there are a few people on your guest list who are similar. So giving them the option to purchase a gift they can wrap and bring to the reception and all that gooeyness seems to me like the best thing to do.
Post # 18
We are in the exact same boat as you, caelanarcher. I am 36, my boyfriend 39. We have both lived alone in our own homes for years and have all that we need…and want that’s tangible. We don’t want to get just STUFF from people. The only thing we truly really would want help with is our furniture. We are having a local woodworker make us some truly special and amazing pieces to put in our home and he is willing to set up a ‘registry account’ for us for our guests to contribute to. We would be so thankful for money towards our new furniture! I am presently trying to get the wording correct in our invitation to ask people to contribute to that registry in lieu of ‘traditional’ wedding gifts. We just don’t want to clutter our home with more stuff or even handmade/homemade gifts that people get us that we’ll put in a box somewhere and won’t use. 🙁 We’re extremely practical that way. We’d rather receive a gift we TRULY appreciate and will use, whether it’s on a registry or not.
Post # 19
I’d prefer to either give something tangible or just a card. I’m not into the whole “pay for our honeymoon/house/etc.” thing.
Post # 20
i think all of those are great options.
fi’s cousin is getting married soon. she’s wealthy, so she doesn’t need people to buy her things, plus she’s having a semi-destination wedding. she put a note on the top of her registry page on her website saying your presence is your gift. she has an two registries with a few upgrades (sheets, new knives, a few pots and pans) and at the bottom of the page has a note that says:
“romantic dinner for two in our hometown” basically saying they’re busy and would love a night out at the restaurant of your choice.
there’s no website to deposit money or anything, so guests would have to get a gift card or cash, but i thought it was a nice idea!
Post # 21
Thanks for all the input, ladies! To clarify, we’re definitely going to have a “real” registry at Macy’s, with the kitchen gadgets, bedding upgrades, etc. I LOVE the idea of having a date-night registry! I knew I could count on you gals to give me a ton of useful advice.
Post # 22
wow, love the idea of some of these. We did a mixture- furniture, honeymoon and than a smaller more tradiational one. we are using http://www.uponourstar.com and it was cool- we were able to put all kinds of things on it.
I need to go check out some of the others, maybe for a baby!!