(Closed) We don’t want FSIL at the wedding.

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Eeeeek – thats hard.  I’d definitely say let Fiance handle it by himself. Even though you’re about to be family, this is still really “his” family stuff to deal with. If you get involved, you could end up getting other family members angry at you and your poor Fiance would be in the unfortunate position of defending you AND dealing with this stuff.

Post # 4
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964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Please stay out of it and let him handle it.  No matter how close you are to his family, I think if you say something to them they will take it as your are forcing him into saying things that he doesn’t want to say.  Even if he talks to them, they might still feel that way but I just think he should be the one to handle his family.

I really hope they understand.

Post # 5
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233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

If I were you I’d let him handle it.  You’re most likely going to get blamed anyway if they take it the wrong way, but he really needs to be the one to talk to his family.  He should do it sooner rather than later though!

Also know that even though your future mother-in-law knows her daughter is difficult, blood can run pretty thick so she may take offense that she’s not invited to the wedding.  Does your mother in law know about the rift that happened between your sister in law and you two?  

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

Yeah I agree with the PP, let you FH take the lead. They will put the blame on you, so just stay out of the line of fire as much as you can. I know its frustrating to not be able to be as vocal as you’d like. Why does family have to be so difficult? Urghl

Post # 9
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456 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

can we just set your Future Sister-In-Law up with my brother and let them go off and bother each other??  if you figure out a good way of dealing with it, let me know.. I’ve been trying to get it through my mothers head that my brother isn’t invited to my wedding and its not sinking in.

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