(Closed) We don’t want unity or roses or brooms… do we HAVE to do anything?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What should we do up there?
    You don't have to do anything besides say your vows. : (63 votes)
    97 %
    I have an idea and I'll tell you about it here. : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    You don’t have to do anthing if you don’t want to. If vows and exchanging rings are enough, then do just that!

    Post # 4
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    The wedding itself with the exchange of vows is a unity ceremony, despite what many people believe. So you dont need unity candles, handfastings, wine exchanges, etc. If someone doesn’t like it, too bad. Your ceremony, your decision. The only legal requirement is the vows and that is all that some people want – nothing wrong with that and it is actually extremely common to go that simple. There is no time frame requirement that you have to fill with fluff you don;t want.

    Post # 5
    2073 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Ditto the PP.  We are not doing anything other than saying vows and exchanging rings.  No readings, nothing.  Short, sweet and to the point.  We both come from large, Catholic families that often do a full Mass but that is not what fits us.  Luckily, our families have no problem with it.

    Do what makes you and Fiance happy.  You’ll still be married at the end of it!

    Post # 6
    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Our ceremony lasted less than 5 minutes. It involved a brief welcome statement, vows, exchange of rings, and kiss. Bam, married.  It was perfect for us. 😀

    Post # 7
    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No. It is ok to have a short Ceremony. I usually feel that people add unit- whatnot to lengthen the ceremony, to appease their parents, and to give them something to do. Your ceremony will be a reflection of you, and that is perfect. 

    Post # 8
    1130 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    No one has to do anything for their wedding. You can go to the courthouse and have a 2 minute ceremony, you can have an elaborate Disney wedding. Pick what traditions you like and go for it. Ditch the ones that aren’t special for you.

    Post # 9
    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    all I did for my wedding was exchange rings and exchange vows. END.

    Post # 10
    481 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I have never been to a wedding that did a single thing that you mentioned (although I do know that the unity sand/candle thing is common in other circles). We are not doing anything like that throughout our ceremony, so you are definitely not alone in your desire to keep the ceremony simple and personal. I say just do what feels right to the two of you, because that’s who/what really matters!

    Post # 13
    3501 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2002

    you dont have to do anything! we dont like the sand box things either – but we are doing a unity cross and just placing the inside cross inside the outer cross. just means something like the inside is the woman, delicate intricate lovely etc and the outer is the base, the strength and foundation to represent the man. you can google it!

    Post # 14
    2084 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 1993

    We aren’t doing anything ‘extra’

    Post # 15
    764 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We didn’t do very much tradition-wise. No unity candle, sand, etc. No bouquet or garter toss. No mother-son dance. And it was perfect.

    Post # 16
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Darling Husband and I only said our vows.  I like things short and sweet 🙂

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