Post # 47
You said your fiance usually just describes rings as “shiny”….is there any chance that he is wrong about what size the inherited ring is and what size the rings you were looking at on the computer actually are? Because the rings you look at on the computer are shown at 5 times magnification or so…so you can see the detail. They’re not that big in real life.
Maybe it’s just a misunderstanding where he thought you were looking at huge magnified computer rings and the real life ring is much smaller (because of course any real ring is smaller than the image on the computer screen).
Post # 48
You should really look into colored gemstones- and either flank a gem with two small pear diamonds or flank the pear with two gemstones. I think it would be really pretty. Gemstones can sometimes rival diamonds in beauty if you get the right cut- www.torraca.net
This guy is amazing. Also, check out pricescope.com for other ideas, the halo setting sounds beautiful. I would tell your FMILl that you’re really considering another type of stone as to not hurt her feelings. Good luck- you’re getting engaged soon! Yay!
Post # 49
I think that halo setting is awesome. Also the CZ until you have more money is a good idea. Or sapphire or other stone. But, Boyfriend or Best Friend might be wrong about size and it may be a reasonable size – I have a half carat solitaire and it’s great – 0.3 carat would have been fine with me – even less if Fiance didn’t have much money. Definitely don’t go into debt for the ring.
Post # 50
So just to update everyone, we talked about the ring situation and I expressed that I didn’t care what the ring looked like as long as he picked it out. I want to wear a ring that he chooses, not just ones that happens to be the most convienient.
He surprised me Saturday morning to take me shopping to see what I like. It was so cute, he was picking out rings for me to try on left and right. I’ve noticed that we do have different taste. I’m drawn to the more antique looking rings and he prefers a classic solitare style. In the end we found some that we both thought were nice AND in our price range. So the little sales dude wrote down some style numbers for the Boy.
Now I guess I just have to be patient and wait 🙂
Post # 52
Awesome! You have to wear it for the rest of your life, so this is a good solution 🙂
Post # 53
I think you need to see it. Guys never know what they were talking about….I was watching Platnium weddings one night, with my b/f and the rehearsal dinner came up…and he said “wait they have to rehearse the dinner too?” I was like omg…. point being when he says it’s this tiny pear shaped thing… he has nothing really to compare it to…and has no idea what he’s talking about.
Here is another option… what if you get his diamond reset.. and then sometime later once the school loans are done you get an enhancer or maybe a really nice wedding band?
Post # 54
Oh that’s so great!! I’m glad you won’t have to settle for the mom’s stone. I personally would NEVER want a diamond from a divorced marriage! Even if it was perfect and exactly what I was looking for. But that was a double whammy for you — not the style you wanted AND with the negative history. Can’t wait for your happy ending when he gives you your ring!
Post # 55
@divergirl: OMG – that’s the best story ever!
Post # 56
I’m so glad you don’t have to settle for your FMIL’s stone. It’s your ring, your hand, and if you’re going to wear it for the rest of your life you should definitely love it! We can’t wait to see pictures so make sure you post them when you get it for real…and congrats!
Post # 57
Magdalena! I thought I was the only one who thought this way! Though I’ll probably wear my ring after marriage at least sometimes since I luvre it and that’s the tradition around these parts. But I agree with what you say 110%.
Post # 58
I will always wear my engagement ring right next to my wedding ring. It’s beautiful and would be such a waste of money and sentiment to stop wearing them. My husband would be so insulted! I am sure you will find a ring you can afford and LOVE!
Post # 59
@Arachna: You and me are about the only two ones in the whole wide world I think 🙂
Post # 60
I see I’m the 57th poster on this topic, but I just wanted to share my e-ring. It is gorgeous and onsale at overstock.com for $400. I am not sure why girls feel so pressured to get expensive rings– I am sure you can get a nice and very affordable ring for under $1,000.