(Closed) We finally had “the ring” talk….disappointed

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

You said your fiance usually just describes rings as “shiny”….is there any chance that he is wrong about what size the inherited ring is and what size the rings you were looking at on the computer actually are? Because the rings you look at on the computer are shown at 5 times magnification or so…so you can see the detail. They’re not that big in real life.

Maybe it’s just a misunderstanding where he thought you were looking at huge magnified computer rings and the real life ring is much smaller (because of course any real ring is smaller than the image on the computer screen).

Post # 48
683 posts
Busy bee

You should really look into colored gemstones- and either flank a gem with two small pear diamonds or flank the pear with two gemstones. I think it would be really pretty. Gemstones can sometimes rival diamonds in beauty if you get the right cut- www.torraca.net

This guy is amazing. Also, check out pricescope.com for other ideas, the halo setting sounds beautiful. I would tell your FMILl that you’re really considering another type of stone as to not hurt her feelings. Good luck- you’re getting engaged soon! Yay!

Post # 49
1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think that halo setting is awesome. Also the CZ until you have more money is a good idea. Or sapphire or other stone. But, Boyfriend or Best Friend might be wrong about size and it may be a reasonable size – I have a half carat solitaire and it’s great – 0.3 carat would have been fine with me – even less if Fiance didn’t have much money. Definitely don’t go into debt for the ring.

Post # 51
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011


Post # 52
673 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Awesome! You have to wear it for the rest of your life, so this is a good solution 🙂

Post # 53
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you need to see it. Guys never know what they were talking about….I was watching Platnium weddings one night, with my b/f and the rehearsal dinner came up…and he said “wait they have to rehearse the dinner too?” I was like omg…. point being when he says it’s this tiny pear shaped thing… he has nothing really to compare it to…and has no idea what he’s talking about.


Here is another option… what if you get his diamond reset.. and then sometime later once the school loans are done you get an enhancer or maybe a really nice wedding band?

Post # 54
1726 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh that’s so great!! I’m glad you won’t have to settle for the mom’s stone. I personally would NEVER want a diamond from a divorced marriage! Even if it was perfect and exactly what I was looking for. But that was a double whammy for you — not the style you wanted AND with the negative history. Can’t wait for your happy ending when he gives you your ring!

Post # 56
1396 posts
Bumble bee

I’m so glad you don’t have to settle for your FMIL’s stone. It’s your ring, your hand, and if you’re going to wear it for the rest of your life you should definitely love it! We can’t wait to see pictures so make sure you post them when you get it for real…and congrats!

Post # 57
1154 posts
Bumble bee

Magdalena!  I thought I was the only one who thought this way!  Though I’ll probably wear my ring after marriage at least sometimes since I luvre it and that’s the tradition around these parts.  But I agree with what you say 110%.

Post # 58
571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I will always wear my engagement ring right next to my wedding ring.  It’s beautiful and would be such a waste of money and sentiment to stop wearing them.  My husband would be so insulted!  I am sure you will find a ring you can afford and LOVE!

Post # 59
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Arachna: You and me are about the only two ones in the whole wide world I think 🙂

Post # 60
216 posts
Helper bee

I see I’m the 57th poster on this topic, but I just wanted to share my e-ring. It is gorgeous and onsale at overstock.com for $400. I am not sure why girls feel so pressured to get expensive rings– I am sure you can get a nice and very affordable ring for under $1,000.


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