(Closed) we found an apartment/ cohabitation poll

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What do you think of cohabitation?

    Only if you're married

    Only if you're engaged

    Any time it feels right

    Other (explain)

  • Post # 31
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    13094 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Personally, I wouldn’t feel comfortable moving in with someone until we were engaged.  DH and I were long distance when we got engaged and moved in together about 7 months later (about 3 months before the wedding) when we got to relocated to the same city.

    To each their own though – I take no issue with people who live together before engagement; it just isn’t for me.

    Post # 32
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    4753 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I do agree with the notion it delays an engagement. I do not think though that one will never get a proposal unless that’s what the man has believed all along.

    Of all my friends the ones who live together date for 2-5 years before getting engaged the ones who don’t get engaged at about 1 year.

    So if you’re in a rush, I’d say don’t do it but for me, I’d rather spend my time with my man than live seperately so that we get engaged sooner.

    Post # 33
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    198 posts
    Blushing bee

    After engagement. I didn’t move in with my ExH until we were engaged and had set a date.

    Post # 35
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    5920 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We moved in together when we were 19, and I am glad we didn’t get engaged then.  We got engaged when I was 22, and it was perfect for us.  I don’t regret living together before engagement/marriage in the slightest bet – everyone is different, but it was definitely the BEST decision for us.

    Post # 36
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    4753 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @hellopurple: I guess all I’m saying is: Yes, the stats are right in my experience. Living together delays an engagement. That’s what I’ve noticed anyways.

    Post # 37
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    171 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think it just depends on the couple.  we had been dating for 5 years already when we moved in together, so we move slowly anyway.  we’ve lived together for 6 months now, and it’s only confirmed for us how great we are together.  we’re planning to get engaged within the next 9-12 months.  for us, living together has seemed to speed up the process.

    Post # 38
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    929 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I think for me, cohabitation was a big step in itself so I didn’t mind if it meant that i wouldn’t get engaged quite as quickly. And I agree with vmec – i’d rather have the extra time with my SO by living together than worry about getting the ring sooner.

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