Post # 31
Personally, I wouldn’t feel comfortable moving in with someone until we were engaged. DH and I were long distance when we got engaged and moved in together about 7 months later (about 3 months before the wedding) when we got to relocated to the same city.
To each their own though – I take no issue with people who live together before engagement; it just isn’t for me.
Post # 32
I do agree with the notion it delays an engagement. I do not think though that one will never get a proposal unless that’s what the man has believed all along.
Of all my friends the ones who live together date for 2-5 years before getting engaged the ones who don’t get engaged at about 1 year.
So if you’re in a rush, I’d say don’t do it but for me, I’d rather spend my time with my man than live seperately so that we get engaged sooner.
Post # 33
After engagement. I didn’t move in with my ExH until we were engaged and had set a date.
Post # 34
we’ve dated for a year and 5 months already, so it’s too late to get engaged in just one year. thanks for your perspective! my guy is the type who won’t get engaged to someone unless he has lived with them first 🙂
Post # 35
We moved in together when we were 19, and I am glad we didn’t get engaged then. We got engaged when I was 22, and it was perfect for us. I don’t regret living together before engagement/marriage in the slightest bet – everyone is different, but it was definitely the BEST decision for us.
Post # 36
I guess all I’m saying is: Yes, the stats are right in my experience. Living together delays an engagement. That’s what I’ve noticed anyways.
Post # 37
I think it just depends on the couple. we had been dating for 5 years already when we moved in together, so we move slowly anyway. we’ve lived together for 6 months now, and it’s only confirmed for us how great we are together. we’re planning to get engaged within the next 9-12 months. for us, living together has seemed to speed up the process.
Post # 38
I think for me, cohabitation was a big step in itself so I didn’t mind if it meant that i wouldn’t get engaged quite as quickly. And I agree with vmec – i’d rather have the extra time with my SO by living together than worry about getting the ring sooner.