(Closed) We got 3 gifts and 3 cards at our wedding…normal?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Have you checked your registry?  Guests have up to a year to send you something, so make sure you keep the list going.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

I would say that’s not normal at all, based on what I’ve seen through the years and in my own life. I don’t know where all this absence of card and gift giving is coming from, unless you were given many gifts at a shower and people don’t also give wedding gifts. I have a friend from the South who is shocked we give gifts for both events, as she and her friends and family do not. Not sure if its a regional thing or not, but it appears to be one of the many differences in weddings…I’m in the NE.

So sorry. I think its terrible to not have gotten many cards even!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Did you have a shower? Did you get gifts from most of your other guesta at the shower?

To many people (myself included), only 1 gift is required per wedding. So if I bring a gift to your shower, I’m probably not going to bring one to your wedding as well. Sorry, folks, I’m not made of money.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oooh, some quick googling on the topic of gift at shower plus gift at wedding is telling me that I’m wrong. I wonder how many friends I’ve pissed off over the years by only giving one gift?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Definitely don’t thinly that’s normal; did you have a card box? Is it possible someone stole some of your cards at the reception?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@lwilliams107:  I’d be disappointed too.  It is customary to give the newlyweds a gift or card of some sort.  Hopefully, people will come through and surprise you with cards and or gifts to your residence in the coming weeks. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I was always taught/told there is an “unwritten rule” that you should give a gift at the shower and money at the wedding, unless you missed the shower than you can bring a gift. I normally give what I believe the cost of my meal was plus some… unless the meals over 100 bucks lol.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Well that sucks.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m sorry to say that it’s not normal. 

Anyways, I’ve always given a shower gift then brought a card with money to the wedding.  At least that’s how it’s been every wedding/bridal shower I’ve participated in. I just recently went to a wedding and gave a card with $200 in it.  Definitely not in my budget, but that’s how these things go unfortunately.

I’m sorry you had a bad turnout.  🙁 hopefully people only forgot and will be mailing them out to you or bringing things over.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

hmmm. still wondering if you had a shower….

What was the age range of your guests?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

thats definately not the norm………personally i would not go to a wedding empy handed,  and i think its terrible if anyone would do that.  eat and drink all you can provide and not so much as a congratulations card……some people are just plain greedy and ignorant. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

That’s very strange. I, for one, give a gift at every wedding related event (engagement, shower, wedding). Maybe wait it out a bit, maybe some gifts will trickle in?

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m really sorry this happened to you! I, for one, always bring a gift to the shower and then I get another registry gift for the wedding (that I have sent directly to the couple) AND I bring a nice card to the wedding. I’m also fine with bringing a card with cash/check to the wedding, but Fiance prefers to gift registry items.

I don’t want to sound materalistic – and I don’t even really like cards that much – but I’ll be super disappointed if we only get a couple of cards/gifts for the wedding. I mean, we’re providing dinner and entertainment to these people, the least they can do is drop a $3 greeting card into my nice card box.

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