(Closed) We got engaged now what?

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I feel it really important to stop and just relax. We are getting married in November and yes, I know there is a lot to do, but you don’t have to do everything at once. The first thing I would secure is your city or ceremony site. Then your dress and order that.

After that, you can relax a little. If you are eloping then you aren’t inviting anyone so you don’t have to worry about invites, save the dates, etc.


I think there is also one thing every bride gets super excited about…honeymoon, shoes, veil, photos…all sorts of things. It’s ok to just focus on that, too.


And remember…there is not one thing you MUST do. Your only job is to enjoy yourself (you will never be engaged again!) and show up on your wedding day.

Post # 4
899 posts
Busy bee

Start by finding a venue that will take care of a lot for you. My venue inclues the ceremony and receptions space, all food/drinks/appetizers, a wait staff, linens, glassware, dinnerware and they even have candles that they will put on the tables if you don’t do centerpieces. We also get a “day-of” coordinator that will pretty much be our assistant for the day. Stress free! 🙂

Post # 5
2167 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@misslillypad:  I’m not 20 something anymore (just turned 31), but I can comepletely relate!! I would love to elope just the two of us but my sister sort of did that in a sneaky way so I can’t do that to my parents. SO and I have agreed on a VERY small wedding in Maui. I would be happy just having both sets of parents and no one else, but its important to him to have his brothers there. We each have two siblings that we will invite, and then just our parents. The idea of worrying for months about colours, flowers, cakes, guest list, seating, UGH….don’t think we could handle it. We are just going to have our nearest and dearest in a dream location and go all out for the dinner of a lifetime….no expenses spared. SO says he wants me to have a nice ring and pretty dress and then just wants me to be his wife, without all the fuss of a big wedding, and I could not be happier with that. 

Do you think your Fiance would compromise on a smaller destination wedding maybe??

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