(Closed) We had our Engaged Encounter this past weekend….And LOVED IT

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

Thanks so much for posting this 🙂  SO is not Catholic and I was nervous about how he would feel about EE.  He’s never been any kind of retreat, and I know that they can be very open with group sharing, I know he’ll feel better if its just the two of us. 

I’m glad it was such a wonderful experience for you and your FI!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We were also nervous about ours and we loved it! You are totally right about going in with an open mind! 

I also loved that the only person I had to share with was Fiance. And for questions at the end of presetations, we got to write them down on index cards, so no one knew who was asking what.

Plus, everyone there was so nice, I wouldn’t have minding sharing/asking questions in front of them!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I really loved our EE too! We were really nervous going in, and also felt like we’d already talked about everything and this would just be a waste of time… but in the end, we really got a lot out of it. There’s always more to learn about your partner and about creating a healthy marriage! And it’s nice just to have some time to devote to you and your partner and your relationship. We liked it so much that we signed up to volunteer at future sessions after we’re married!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

WE LOVED IT TOO!

My non Catholic Fiance got more out of it than me. He went in apprehensive vs me who was excited. My only warning to couples is that you will delve into topics you may have avoided or not thought about. You will discuss things you thought you were on the same page about and maybe you are but you might be on a different paragraph. Keep in mind why you came together. This is a weekend to make or break you. My Fi were ready to break up Saturday Morning but were closer than close that night. you get what you put into it

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m glad you enjoyed your EE experience!  My Fiance and I did not enjoy ours as fully (to be honest, we found it repetitive and slightly boring), but we felt that they brought up a lot of good and very important discussion questions that couples preparing for marriage really NEED to explore and discuss with each other.  We were absolutely shocked at our EE weekend how many of the couples had never talked about 25% of the topics!  SHOCKED!   And these were couples who were 4-6 months away from their wedding date!

 

So my tip would be this:   DO THIS EARLY IN YOUR ENGAGEMENT, IF POSSIBLE.

EE brings up lots of good and difficult discussion questions that each couple needs to delve into IN DEPTH well before the actual wedding date.   In fact, I think most couples should discuss these questions prior to actual engagement…. it makes for a stronger couple in the end.

 

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@magglemay-2013:  We had ours this weekend, but we just did the one day thing.  I left actually wanting more, which I found surprising!  We aren’t particularly active in our church right now because we recently moved, and it felt so AMAZING to be around other couples just like us.  I feel like it really encouraged both of us to re-engage formally with the church.  We are both very spiritual and worship in our own ways, but I can’t even explain how good it felt to be surrounded by that in other young couples.  Fiance and I talk a lot anyway, but it opened up some conversations that we had not had before.  I really liked all of the couples that presented and felt like they have the kind of marriage that I want.

 

Oh!  And there was a couple there who is getting married on Friday!  Nothing like waiting until the last minute!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@magglemay-2013:  I don’t want to imply that I hated it or anything, it just wasn’t the optimal way I wanted to be spending my time.  My Fiance and I did bond more over it, but not necessarily for the reasons people would expect.  It was nice, but would I want to do it again if I didn’t have to?  Probably not.  EE was the best option for us in regards to the pre-cana stuff available, so we chose that option.  I still think EE is the best option out there in regards to pre-marriage counseling, and would tell anyone considering it to go for it, because there are lots of positive take-aways from the experience.   

@emelee:  Eek! 1 week!  Must have been extenuating circumstances, I don’t think they allow that normally.   Glad they got it in though!  

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