Post # 1
I just wanted to share with all the Catholic bees out there that may be nervous about your Engaged Encounter that there is no need to be! Both my Fiance and I absolutely loved the experience together. My Fiance was especially nervous about attending because he is not Catholic and he did not know what to expect and was worried about being the only non-Catholic there.In reality, most of the couples present were mixed religions.
It was such an amazing experience and even though we had already discussed many of the topics that we were asked to share about, the ability to focus on us and only us without outside distractions really helped take us to a new level in our relationship. We were able to share in a non-judgemental environment and we learned to pray as a couple as opposed to individually. We definitely left there with new energy and a new excitement about beginning our married life in just 2 short months.
It was also really interesting to hear the many stories from actual married couples that had experienced and dealt with many of the things we are struggling with and fear will struggle with as our relationship progresses.
For those of you that have not yet attended your EE weekend, I would suggest you enter it with an open mind, open heart and with a positive attitude in order to get the most out of it for your relationship and future marriage.
Also, there was one couple that attended that neither of them were Catholic, so I would recommend the experience for any couple that may be looking for a relationship builder prior to your marriage. I know that even though the weekend is given through a Catholic message, they encourage any couple of any faith to participate. It is all COUPLE SHARING only, so there is virtually no point in the weekend when you are asked to share with the group and other couples (except when you introduce yourselves at the beginning of the weekend).
Bees that have already done thier EE weekend, what advice do you have?
Post # 3
Thanks so much for posting this 🙂 SO is not Catholic and I was nervous about how he would feel about EE. He’s never been any kind of retreat, and I know that they can be very open with group sharing, I know he’ll feel better if its just the two of us.
I’m glad it was such a wonderful experience for you and your FI!
Post # 4
We were also nervous about ours and we loved it! You are totally right about going in with an open mind!
I also loved that the only person I had to share with was Fiance. And for questions at the end of presetations, we got to write them down on index cards, so no one knew who was asking what.
Plus, everyone there was so nice, I wouldn’t have minding sharing/asking questions in front of them!
Post # 5
I really loved our EE too! We were really nervous going in, and also felt like we’d already talked about everything and this would just be a waste of time… but in the end, we really got a lot out of it. There’s always more to learn about your partner and about creating a healthy marriage! And it’s nice just to have some time to devote to you and your partner and your relationship. We liked it so much that we signed up to volunteer at future sessions after we’re married!
Post # 6
@KatieBklyn: We signed up to help with future sessions too! My Fiance was a little unsure about being a team couple, but I assured him that after 5 years of marriage he may feel different. I can’t wait to get the call to help! Even if it just helping check people in or praying for the couples throughout their weekend 🙂
Post # 7
WE LOVED IT TOO!
My non Catholic Fiance got more out of it than me. He went in apprehensive vs me who was excited. My only warning to couples is that you will delve into topics you may have avoided or not thought about. You will discuss things you thought you were on the same page about and maybe you are but you might be on a different paragraph. Keep in mind why you came together. This is a weekend to make or break you. My Fi were ready to break up Saturday Morning but were closer than close that night. you get what you put into it
Post # 8
I’m glad you enjoyed your EE experience! My Fiance and I did not enjoy ours as fully (to be honest, we found it repetitive and slightly boring), but we felt that they brought up a lot of good and very important discussion questions that couples preparing for marriage really NEED to explore and discuss with each other. We were absolutely shocked at our EE weekend how many of the couples had never talked about 25% of the topics! SHOCKED! And these were couples who were 4-6 months away from their wedding date!
So my tip would be this: DO THIS EARLY IN YOUR ENGAGEMENT, IF POSSIBLE.
EE brings up lots of good and difficult discussion questions that each couple needs to delve into IN DEPTH well before the actual wedding date. In fact, I think most couples should discuss these questions prior to actual engagement…. it makes for a stronger couple in the end.
Post # 9
@magglemay-2013: We had ours this weekend, but we just did the one day thing. I left actually wanting more, which I found surprising! We aren’t particularly active in our church right now because we recently moved, and it felt so AMAZING to be around other couples just like us. I feel like it really encouraged both of us to re-engage formally with the church. We are both very spiritual and worship in our own ways, but I can’t even explain how good it felt to be surrounded by that in other young couples. Fiance and I talk a lot anyway, but it opened up some conversations that we had not had before. I really liked all of the couples that presented and felt like they have the kind of marriage that I want.
Oh! And there was a couple there who is getting married on Friday! Nothing like waiting until the last minute!
Post # 10
@PeachSnapple: I’m sorry you and your Fiance didn’t enjoy yours much. I can understand how it could be repetitive. Prior to our EE weekend my Fiance and I met with our priest 5 times and a married couple twice for an hour each time. By the time we got around to EE we had talked A LOT about most issues. LOL But it was nice to have a weekend completely focused on us.
@emelee: Yikes! Not even one week before the wedding!!! Good thing they didn’t have to suddenly cancel the EE or anything LOL
Post # 11
@magglemay-2013: I don’t want to imply that I hated it or anything, it just wasn’t the optimal way I wanted to be spending my time. My Fiance and I did bond more over it, but not necessarily for the reasons people would expect. It was nice, but would I want to do it again if I didn’t have to? Probably not. EE was the best option for us in regards to the pre-cana stuff available, so we chose that option. I still think EE is the best option out there in regards to pre-marriage counseling, and would tell anyone considering it to go for it, because there are lots of positive take-aways from the experience.
@emelee: Eek! 1 week! Must have been extenuating circumstances, I don’t think they allow that normally. Glad they got it in though!