(Closed) We had our first and LAST meeting with officiant

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Sorry you went through that! It can be especially upsetting when a man of god/church says something hurtful or ignorant because we tend to hold them to higher standards. But, he is just a man! People say/do stupid things all the time. I have no doubt that you and your Fiance will find another officiant who suits your needs perfectly.

Just this weekend, my mother’s friend was telling me that when she went to meet with her priest with her husband (in the early 80’s), the priest recommended pyschological therapy for him because he is Jewish! They didn’t get married there and look back on it and laugh now. Actually, he was laughing about it then too!

Post # 4
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Family Ranch outside Glenrock, WY

You really don’t deserve that!  I”m so sorry girl! 

Post # 5
814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i’m sorry, this person is supposed inspire you, and make sure that you have all the resources you may need to build on and continue to build a strong fondation and relationship.. not belittle your family! ugh,

Post # 7
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

OK, anyone that said or implied that Catholics aren’t Christians would totally get my goat! And frankly the guy just sounds pig-ignorant … of what possible spiritual benefit was it to you for him to insult your father like that? I’m just so sorry you had this experience. I don’t have anything personal to share because our officiant was the priest at the parish I’d been attending most of my life, and he was just awesome. But I sadly also know too many people who have left a parish or even the church altogether because of stupidities like you experienced. As Edina pointed out, men of God are just men, and not always the greatest men.

I will pray for you that you will find an officiant who will give you good, loving advice and real help in preparing for your marriage.

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