Post # 1
Hello my fellow waiting Bees!
I posted a few months ago asking how to start the “I want a ring” conversation. And then a month or so ago, simply venting about how my Boyfriend or Best Friend changes the subject anytime the subject of marriage comes up. But I finally did it. I told him that I needed to talk to him, that it wasn’t meant to start a fight or argument, and I just had somethings I needed to say, and he needed to hear, and if he didn’t want to talk about it afterwards that was fine, but I needed to be heard.
He was WONDERFUL. I told him that I was jealous of my friend that got engaged after knowing her man for less than a year. I told him I was jealous of anotherof his friends that are engaged that are NO WHERE near ready for that kind of commitment (they continuously cheat on one another). I feel like our relationship is WAY better, and we KNOW that we want to be together forever, so I just don’t see what the hold up is!
I told him about this site. I told him I have my dream dress picked. I told him I know what I want in an e-ring and have a folder of options on my computer. I told him I bought ring pops for us for leap day, and I was going to propose to him, but I got very sick, and couldn’t. I told him that I picture our wedding and life together quite often, and it breaks my heart when I can’t talk to him about this. I talked for over an hour, and he just let me get it all out. And when I was finally done and he knew all my deep dark *HOLY COW I JUST WANT TO BE MARRIED TO YOU* secrets, he smiled at me, and said “I guess you should send me those pics you have saved”. It was the best resonse I could have asked for.
After that we talked about everything for a while, and while I still don’t have a timeline, or anything like that, I know were on the same page, and that I’m allowed to talk to him about our future together (as long as I promise not to get naggy or whiney).
It feels like the biggeset weight has been lifted off of me and I couldn’t be happier. Thank you Bee’s for being support when I need you most.
Post # 3
That’s awesome! I bet you feel really relieved to have that off your chest. Sometimes you have to just be blunt and honest for the guys to understand.
Yay, so happy for you!
Post # 4
Yay! Sounds like it went so well 🙂 and it must feel amazing to have all that off your chest and out in the open!
Post # 5
Yay! I hope that he really gets moving now. It’s so nice to hear that he was completely on the same page.
Post # 6
THAT’S AMAZING! Sounds like you definitley have a keeper!!!! I’m happy for you!
Also, thank you for posting this. I’m trying to work up the courage to have the same talk with my SO. It sounds like you were in the same situation I am… your experience has given me some much needed confidence!!! Thanks!!!
Post # 7
@GamerGirl: Thats such a great feeling, right? Getting it all out, its almost like the world comes off your shoulders! Im glad your talk went so well! keep us posted!!
Post # 8
Yay!!! Ahhh that’s such an awesome high when you get on the same page and your SO is on board finally ^_^ now its time to get into “today? Tomorrow?? Next week? Next month? Next holiday?” mode!! Lol jk try not to do that, just makes us crazy.
Post # 9
That’s so good to hear! Now it’s to drive yourself crazy thinking every “out of the ordinary” trip will be IT haha
Can’t wait to see pictures soon!!
Post # 10
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Post # 11
Thanks Mods!! I was trying to find a good reply. I will simply respond that length of time together does not matter. I will never endorse cheating as being prepared for marriage, and there is nothing better that spending time working on your relationship. i am happy that in my relationship I can be honest with my response to what happens around me, and not have this negatively impact my relationships with anyone.
Thanks so much to the rest of you for your wonderful responses. I am very happy, and will keep you wonderful ladies in the loop as my waiting continues. i wish you all happiness in your journeys towards marriage or where ever your life takes you
Post # 12
Wow! What a great boyfriend and future fiance! It sounds like you handled the conversation very well and that he responded very well. I hope you get the ring you want and have your dream wedding, as it sounds like you already have your dream man.
Also, just remember, him waiting doesn’t necessarily mean he has cold feet, he may just be waiting to make everything perfect for you 🙂