Post # 1
I just need to vent. One of my and FI’s cats (we now have two left) got seriously injured. He just hid under a couch for two days and didn’t move. He ate and drank when we put food and water in a bowl next to him, but never went to the litter box and would pee himself when we tried to drag him out from under there.
A trip to the vet and an X-ray later, Fiance and I found out that he had a broken pelvis, and we don’t even know how it happened (he was probably hit by a car).
We tried everything. The vet said that injuries like that aren’t dead serious for such a young cat (7 years), so we followed their advice. We isolated him from the other cats so that they wouldn’t stress him, gave him painkillers, and he underwent multiple costly surgeries… but all in vain.
Two days ago, we went to the vet for what turned out to be the last time. They told us that there was no progress whatsoever, and that we might have to make the difficult decision to put him down. We realised it was probably for the best, so we said okay.
Now I regret not asking Fiance to exit the room for a while and leave me alone with the cat. I feel like I get closure if I talk to a pet as it’s about to be sedated in preparation for the lethal injection about all the happy memories with it. I had this cat before I met Fiance (we bought the other two together), so I have many more precious memories. For some reason I felt like I needed to be alone with him if I were to talk to him about them. What happened instead was me talking about two particular funny incidents that happened after we moved in together. Now I regret not being alone with my cat, and I’ll regret it forever. 🙁 At least the vet let me listen in a stethoscope to hear his heartbeat fade out and then stop. That gave me some closure.
Today, we got a cat food advertise in the mail with our deceased cat’s name on it (the stupid company always does that), and I just broke down in tears I had Fiance call the national pet register and unregister our cat so we won’t be getting any mail or phone calls about him. I’ve got a feeling that I’m going to freak out for a long time about any reminders. He was SO special. We miss him. The other cats don’t care much, it seems.
We will bury him in my mom’s garden, next to my two childhood cats. It’s a very beautiful spot.
Post # 2
I’m so sorry for your loss
Post # 3
I don’t know why only one sentence came through. I wanted to tell you that you did a very unselfish thing by letting him go. He was lucky to have you as his momma his whole life. (Hugs)
Post # 4
I am sorry! Just reading this made me cry off all of my makeup. :'( You did what was best and I hope you find peace with your decision.*e-hugs*
Post # 5
I am so very sorry for your loss. I am trying to hold myself back from crying at my desk. I am heartbroken for you and your Fiance but it sounds like you did the right thing. I know you are sad you didn’t get a moment alone with your cat but he will have KNOWN how much you loved him xxxxx
Post # 6
Kitty is at Rainbow Bridge, happy and frolicking in the heavens above, no more pain.
Hes in a better place, just keep thinking that. HUGS to you and your family and fur babies.
Sorry for your loss.
Post # 7
Actually OP I think you did the best possible thing. You were there for your cat, that’s the most important thing. It’s the only thing that matters! Your cat not only had love from you, but love from your fiance. And the best way to go is surrounded by love. Don’t regret anything. You did it right!
Post # 8
I’m so so sorry for your loss, you did everything you could do. There’s nothing to do but grieve and know that he has a special place in your heart. Time is a great healer.
Post # 9
I’m so sorry for your loss – we recently had to put our cat down, and I think you did the right thing – and he must have felt so loved by you and your Fiance. Lots of love for you both xx
Post # 10
I’m terribly sorry for your loss. I was faced with making the same decision regarding my girl of 15 years in December (advanced lung cancer) and it was like my world came crashing down. I felt guilt that I could have somehow prevented what happened and all sorts of other insane thoughts.
You made the right decision and I know it’s hard not to… but try not to doubt the way things ended, your cat knew how much you loved him. Take some time alone and speak to him now about those special moments. I bought a pendant after losing my girl, a beautiful glass heart. When I want to say hello to her, I rub it and think of her fondly or speak to her. Sure, some people might think we’re crazy but I understand where you’re coming from.
It will get better with time.. *hugs*
Post # 11
Sorry for the loss of your fur baby. Husband’s cat crossed the rainbow bridge back in January and he still gets sad over it. I’m sure it was the right choice and treasure your memories.
Post # 12
I’m so sorry for you and your lost furbaby. Try to take some comfort in that you didn’t keep the poor thing suffering and did the right thing. It’s such a hard decision to make. Hugs to you!
Post # 14
Guilt is a natural emotion after losing a pet you loved so much. Please don’t beat yourself up. You did everything right for your baby. I’m so sorry for your loss and do NOT let non-pet…people make you feel “stupid” for grieving. Virtual hugs to you
Post # 15
I’m very sorry for your loss.