Thanks for all the helpful advice and encouragement. I think we’re just going to have to make a list of pros and cons and then make a leap of faith.
-we’ve both always wanted to live in NYC, at least for a few years. We’re both pretty familiar with the city, and have friends who live there, so we know what to expect in terms of apartments and prices. I’m lready familiar wih and have friends on the upper west side, hoboken, jersey city, and the Upper east side.
-his family lives in Toronto, so Nyc is a step closer. My siblings are spread all over from LA to Texas to Georgia and Virginia, so NY is still a flight away from my mom and family.
-this seems to b a career-making move for him, so *hopefully* even if the cost of living increase means we save less now, it could mean more promotions and better jobs in the future.
-It’s hard to beat the culture and excitement of NYC
-If Fiance takes it, he’ll never have to wonder “what if”. He’s been offered an awesome oppurtunity, and this is a guy that grew up in a war-torn country and whose family had to leave everything behind to start over here. So this is definitely a “boy makes good” story.
-I love my job here. LOVE it. I mean…even my name on here is Bookgirrl, and I really identify as a libarian. My career has kind of taken off this year and I’v made it on a professional organization book awards committee, so I get taken to dinner by all the big publishers and I get tons of free books. Also, I get all holidays and summers off, and I know how lucky I am to have that. So, if I end up doing some random desk job, I’m probably not going to be as fulfilled. I’m just really going to miss what I do. =(
-All of our friends are here. Since our families don’t live in this state, my friends hve become like my family. We’re both fairly sociable, so I know we’ll make friends in NY eventually too….but starting all over is always daunting.
-It may sound lame or petty, but Fiance is a big-time conservative spender, so he’s already letting me know that he only wants to spend $2500 a month on rent. (gulp). I just thought that by this point in my life, I would at least have a 2 bedroom so we could have kids at some point! At that price point, I definitely think we’ll be in a v. small 1 bedroom.
-we have a wedding in september to plan…and it’s in Dallas.
SIGH. I know this isn’t a BIG problem, but I am happy here, and I’m afraid of messing up a good thing! On the other hand, as my brother pointed out, I am a girl that loves adventure and I’ll probably be happy there…and I shouldn’t live my life based on the fear of the unknown.
I just need to borrow a crystal ball….anyone? hehe