(Closed) We have 24 hours to decide if we're moving to NYC or not: Help!?

posted 8 years ago in New York City
Post # 17
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It sounds you both are happy in Texas, but if you want something different that is understandable. Risks can be great πŸ™‚

But I mean, you both are happy in Dallas, stay there! πŸ™‚ Perhaps it’s not always about the money. So many people who are MUCH older than me have said it countless times…

I hope you both make the best decision that makes you both the happiest πŸ™‚ My Fiance always says it’s not where we are at, but who we’re with.

Hope that helps.

Post # 18
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would go, and I personally would never want to live in NYC. But I couldn’t ever afford it.

It sounds like you have more than enough to live comfortably, and there will never be a 100% perfect time.

Post # 19
1327 posts
Bumble bee

Take a chance…. thats what lifes about. πŸ™‚

Post # 21
286 posts
Helper bee

i’ll sell you one for $10,000! lol JK.


it really sounds like you should take the leap.

like someone said earlier, there will never be a PERFECT time & if you have the chance, take it. not many people are lucky like you two! there are always better opportunties for you also. you sound like you’re good at what you do, so i’m sure you can go far no matter where you decide to move!


i think if you do it, things will start to fall in place.

Post # 22
286 posts
Helper bee

& maybe planning a wedding here will make it that much more fun. i’m planning a wedding 3 hours away. i live in houston & i’m planning it for the austin area so its kinda fun to get away from houston to go down there every now & then.

Post # 23
1856 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m a big-time planner, to the point I’m obsessive about making lists and having every detail set in stone before I make a move. But to be honest, if I were you? I’d take a leap of faith and jump. This sounds like an amazing opportunity for Fiance and for you, even though I really feel for you on the job front.

It’s a huge decision to make overnight, but I think your brother is right – you can’t live being scared of what’s coming next. It sounds like financially you’ll be okay (although I’m on a grad student budget so of course that sounds a-okay to me!), it’s something you were both interested in trying out before the opportunity… If it was me, I’d say yes. Good luck!

Post # 24
306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

DO IT!!! you only live ONCE!

Post # 25
28 posts
  • Wedding: January 2012

This sounds like a wonderful opportunity and it seems the NY Bees have given quite a bit of assurance. I can imagine how torn you must be, but I think you’ll be fine! Pray on it!

Post # 26
442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@BookGirrl  Sounds like whatever you decide, you can’t lose πŸ™‚ Good luck.

Post # 27
7 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

One thing to think about if you’re having kids in NYC.  I have friends who’ve said that the cost of childcare for just one child is $25,000-$28,000.

Post # 28
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you hate it or it doesn’t work out, you can always move back.  I’ve lived in 5 states in the past 12 years and it’s terrifying and exhilirating simultaneously.  It’s a big scary move, but it doesn’t have to be forever.  It sounds like it’s an opportunity for the both of you.  And it sounds like your career may take a back seat to his career for the time being.  My career has taken a back seat to my husband’s in the past few years and it’s hard.  But as long as you don’t resent him or the decision, you can do anything for a few years.  And if it’s to see him shine and really come into his own, it’s totally worth it and rewarding. If you can’t find a job that fulfills you, then you can have kids and stay at home and eliminate the need to factor in child care costs.  πŸ™‚  I say go for it because it doesn’t have to be permanent if it’s miserable.

Post # 29
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If he wants to only spend $2,500 I would definitely consider Brooklyn or NJ (you mentioned Hoboken which is really nice). Because you’ll wind up living in a shoebox in Manhattan or have to live in Washington Heights or something (WH isn’t bad, but to me I’d rather live in Bklyn than that far uptown).

That’s just my opinion though. I know people new to the city want to live in Manhattan.

Post # 30
4500 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

With that much money you will be absolutely FINE in New York. My husband and I make less than $100k/year (combined), and we live in one of the nicest neighborhoods in Brooklyn and have plenty of money to spare. 

I say go for it. With that kind of money, you guys have a bit more freedom — you can always move back to Dallas without going bankrupt, if NYC doesn’t work out.

Post # 31
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@BookGirrl  I definitely think you should go for it!  My Fiance and I live in Manhattan, and until recently only made a little more combined than your Fiance would alone, and we both manage to go to nice restaurants, enjoy living in the city, but still save.  If you want to live in Manhattan, I think $2500 is definitely doable for a small one bedroom, but if you upped your limits to about $2800, I think you’d find a lot more options.  If you want to go to Brooklyn or Queens you could easily find a large one bedroom or 2 bedroom (there are A LOT of really nice areas besides Park Slope in Brooklyn– for example I LOVE Carroll Gardens, Cobble Hill, and Boerum Hill, which may even be slightly cheaper.  In Queens, Long Island City, Astoria, and Forest Hills are great options, where you get a lot more for your money– even more than you would get in BK I think).  If you have any questions about neighborhoods, happy to give my 2 cents! Hope that helps!  

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