(Closed) we have 65 No responses Now what?!?!?!

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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2066 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m not sure what you are asking, but if you have 65 outstanding RSVPs, you need to call or email every single person to get a firm RSVP.  Good luck!

Post # 5
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1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would wait a few more days for the stragglers…then get on the phone (or email if you now they will respond quickly) to call everyone!  I would get my parents to call their friends/relatives and the in-laws to do the same.  I would call our friends.  If you need the numbers NOW, then you need answers now.  If someone is unsure if they can come when you call, you simply state that unfortunately you need to have the final numbers in to your venue and that you will put them down as not attending because you are unable to accommodate late additions.  If you have a little time before your numbers need to be in, then you may be able to give people a bit more time to decide, but you need to let them know that if you do not hear back by a certain date, they will be marked as not attending.  Good luck with all the phone calls!

Post # 6
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4465 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@AshCo: just delegate as you see fit.  I made my mom get on the case of our family members, I facebooked some people, made my dad call his fam, etc.  I don’t know if there’s etiquette around it, but I just did what I had to to get responses.

Post # 7
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2476 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yup I’m with @hotchildinthecity.  I did whatever I needed to do to get responses.  My dad called his siblings, I emailed/called/texted a few of my cousins & friends, and Fiance did some investigating as well.

It’s really annoying but you gotta do what you gotta do… so glad I don’t have to go through that again!  Tongue out

Post # 8
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2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Did you invite my family? Because that is what happened to me! Most of our no’s were my moms siblings so I asked her to chase them down. I also sent out an email and said in a nice way- if you dont rsvp we wont order you dinner or a chair or a plate. We had a really small space that could only hold like 70 people and we had a zero tolerance policy for not rsvping.

Post # 9
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2186 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i would wait a couple more days since it was a holiday weekend and people might have forgotten until they got back from vacation – sometimes i leave it up to the last available date (i.e. mail on RSVP date) i know im bad, but just in case.

and i would split up the list according to whom hasnt responded – if its your family you and your parents can call, if its FH family they can call.

Post # 10
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837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would wait a few more days.  A lot of people drop them in the mail on the RSVP date (annoying yes, but it’s true) so you will probably get flooded this week with them.  Also, remember it was a holiday on Monday so all those will come today and tomorrow.  I would start calling Saturday and Sunday, that was you have given them a week since the RSVP date.

Post # 11
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2066 posts
Buzzing bee

We are a week away from RSVP deadline.  Our plan is to wait a few days, then split up the list and start calling.  My parents will call their friends and their relatives.  FI’s parents will call their friends and their relatives.  And Fiance and I will call our friends. 

Post # 12
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

When does your caterer need the final numbers?  Mine needed them about a week before the wedding.  I would split up all the none responders between you, your parents, and your Fiance depending on who knows the people the best.

Post # 14
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724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would start calling asap. The worst that will happen is people telling you it’s in the mail and then you can just say “Thanks!” and be done with it.

Post # 15
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1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If your deadline is this Friday, talk to your parents (both sets) tonight and divide the list.  You need to start calling/emailing/facebooking today in case you need an extra day or two to get a hold of some people!

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