Post # 1
My RSVP cards say “We have ___ seats reserved for you.” I have some kids under 5 that will not get a seat. They will have to sit on their parent’s lap. If I were to put “2 seats,” do you think the parents will know immediately that their child will have to sit on their lap? Our invitations are addressed to the parent’s and the kid so they know they can bring their child. I just hope they don’t get confused when the invitation says 3 people, but the rsvp only says 2. Thoughts anyone?
Post # 2
That would be confusing. I can see a 1 year old sitting on a parent’s lap, but I don’t think it is fair for a 5 year old to sit on their lap. Plus, there would be two plates of food which doesn’t seem easy. I would give all children their own seat.
Post # 3
I agree with PP. I would say children over 2 should get their own seat, or not be invited.
Post # 4
5 year olds actually get a seat. It’s for anyone under 5. I have a few kids that are 4 and under. If I have to give each of them a seat it would cost way too much. I have about 10 kids on my guestlist.
Post # 5
If it’s too much, why are they on the guest list?
I think the wording is confusing and I would bet you have people at your reception grabbing chairs for the little ones to sit on.
Post # 6
A gracious host would provide a chair for each guest. If you can’t provide booster chairs or high chairs, let the guests know to bring one for their child. They can place the booster on one of the venue chairs.
Have you ever tried to eat a meal with a 3 or 4 yr old sitting on your lap?
Are you planning on providing food for these children?
Post # 7
Even a 4-year-old is too big to sit on his or her parent’s lap all night. This is only fine for infants and very young children. If you can’t afford to give them their own seats, don’t invite them and keep it to breastfeeding infants only.
Post # 8
are the lap seats just for the ceremony or for the reception as well?
Post # 9
Do the parents know that the kids will have to sit on their lap? I’m afraid it is going to cause some real confusion at the reception.
If that’s the only way you can do it you need to note it on their specific RSVP card (handwritten).
If you are paying for the kids’ food you should get a chair for them too. Are you not planning on the kids eating?
Post # 10
You only have 10 kids, so ring those parents and talk to them about it. Perhaps they can bring a high chair.
Post # 11
I think expecting parents to have a child seated on their lap at the reception is a bit much – how on earth are they supposed to eat with a small person sitting on top of them? I don’t understand how it will cost too much to provide each guest with a chair, as I presume that you’re also providing children under 5 with their own meal?
Post # 12
If you say providing a chair is too expensive, then I’m assuming you are also not letting the kids eat which is really not okay. To stick to the question at hand, I would assume seeing only 2 seats available would mean my child isn’t invited, so yes, it is too confusing.
Post # 13
I agree with the PPs. It’s confusing, and will be really uncomfortable for your guests to have up to 4 year olds on their laps.
Post # 14
I put these on my RSVP cards too. It read: “We have reserved __ seats in your honor.” Say the number was 5. Then next line: “__ of 5 will attend”. and people were to fill in how many were coming, with lines below for them to write the names of who’s coming. and guess what? people STILL couldnt figure it out! We had several people write in a larger number of people coming than were given seats. Then we had people not fill out anything at all and send it back to us. I think as easy as you try and make it for your guests, people will still unfortunately just not get it, and you’re going to have to do some extra leg work when it comes to getting a final number/ list of who’s actually comng. Good luck, I hope everything goes smoothly for you. I’m just saying this because I thought we made it VERY straightforward for our guests but apparently it wasn’t simple enough, and I’d wished somebody prepped me in advance that I would still have to track people down.
Post # 15
I would specifically tell the patents you don’t plan on giving their children a seat so they can make a decision if they want to leave their kids at home or decline the invite. I can’t imagine many parents will be happy with having a kid on their lap for the reception if they are over a year old. 5 is a really late cut off, even 3 year olds are around 30 lbs on average so I doubt people are going to want to be all dressed up with a kid eating in their lap while they try to eat themselves. Honestly I think it’s pretty rude not to give the kids a chair.