- 4 years ago
Was hoping to get a little advice/perspective here…
My Partner of 2.5 years bought an engagement ring last July when we were on holiday, I think he had planned to buy it and had a place in mind to get it from, thats why he wanted us to have a mini break in July which is a very busy time for us work-wise. I had never been interested in weddings/marriage until I met him, (I suppose thats how it works when you find the right person) Now its almost a year gone by and no sign of the ring… I admit its starting to stress me out somewhat, I dont understand what the delay is.
Some info, we dont live together (he is a bit old fashioned and wont move in until we are married) we do work together (part time), my parents live 100 miles away but we have seen them several times in the last year (he wants to ask my dad if its okay to marry me), I’m early 30’s he is 5 years younger, his job is family business so pretty secure, ring is bought and paid for.
We have skirted around the subject a couple of times recently, I got a bit upset in May with the lack of progress and he said ‘trust me, you want it to be a supprise?’ and more recently we were talking about jobs/future and he said he ought to ‘get a shuffle on’ with this wedding thing. I asked if there was a problem and he said no. He has even scoped out a spot that might be a good place for a wedding reception… Honestly I’m more interested in starting our life together than the actual wedding part of it, although I’m sure that will be enjoyable too!
See, my beloved is not the best organiser and has a habit of leaving things to the last minute, he does keep his promises and things do get done, but often all in a rush 2 minutes before a deadline. Weddings seem like a thing you cant just do last minute, not if you want people to come and have a good time! So my question is do I sit down and have a proper discuss with him about it, try and get him to get organised/give him a deadline to work to (not an ultimatum, I couldnt do that, Im in for better or worse here) or do I just wait and let him get around to it eventually?
Thanks all you lovely people!