(Closed) "We have reserved __ seat(s) in your honor." on rsvp cards?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: "We have reserved __ seat(s) in your honor." is: (can choose many)
    rude (described below) : (2 votes)
    3 %
    a good idea : (38 votes)
    57 %
    confusing- guests might substitute others for original invitees : (4 votes)
    6 %
    unnecessary- invitees are already listed on envelopes : (5 votes)
    7 %
    unnecessary if website limits rsvps to invited guests only : (0 votes)
    other (described below) : (1 votes)
    1 %
    "__ of # will attend." is rude (described below) : (0 votes)
    "__ of # will attend." is a good idea : (15 votes)
    22 %
    "__ of # will attend." is confusing- guests might sub in others uninvited : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 18
    10451 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m doing this. I don’t want to deal with people who can’t read their names on the envelope and try to add a bunch of randoms. 

    Post # 20
    124 posts
    Blushing bee

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    @LuvMySailor:  I like how you phrased your RSVP cards, and I’m planning on doing something similar.

    OP, I don’t think it is rude at all, nor do I think using the phrase “in your honor.” is stuffy. . . to me it sounds proper and classy.  If you are having a formal style wedding, I think it would be appropriate, and in your case it sounds as you are since you mentioned using inner envelopes.  If you are having a more casual affair you can rephrase.

    As PP’s have mentioned, you still might get cards back with additions though.

    Post # 21
    922 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’ve decided that no matter how you do your RSVP cards, someone will mess it up.  If you don’t have a seating chart, then the original post by Shkragoldfish works just fine. If you have seating chart and are doing place cards, then you need to know who all is coming.  The only way to make this 100% fool proof is to write every single person’s name on the card that goes with that invitation (even then I’m sure someone is bound to mess that up).  However, most of us don’t want to take the time to do that.  I chose to make my own RSVP card, and it’s generic so that I don’t have to customize each one.  We are having a seated dinner with menu selection, so trying to determine who is coming and which person is having what, was not easy.  So here’s what I have right now:


    Names:                                          Attendance                     Menu Selection

    _______________                 Accepts           Regrets           Beef           Chicken


    I’ve repeated this line for a total of 4 lines (the max # of guests in one household).  Granted, this isn’t fool proof either.  I’m hoping guests will write each name on a line, check accepts or regrets, and check beef or chicken.  I don’t have inner envelopes, as I am addressing the outer ones to all the guests in that household who are invited.  We are okay with this being less formal; I’d rather not have to call each guest in the end.


    If anyone has any input if you think this works or doesn’t or suggestions, please do share!  I do like the idea of numbering the RSVP cards so you know who’s came back if it’s not obvious.  Thank you fellow bees!

    Post # 22
    9522 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Shkragoldfish:  i have never seen this until the bee.

    i would think that even though you write mr. and mrs. smith on the invitation,  if mrs. smith can’t come, because 2 seats have been reservered, mr. smith will think he can bring someone else in her place.


    we are not doing this,  if people RSVP differently that what is on the invitation, I will call my people and Fiance will call his people to correct them.


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